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writes:hi,im 5ft3 and my this guy im seeing is 5ft11, we havent reached the bf and gf step yet as we're both working non stop and meet only for 1hr or 2 sometimes. there's a substantial height different between us, we stuggle to have sex because of the height different, even with me on top he doesnt fit in and gets 'kick' out. we tried doggy, missionary and cowgirl. none are working. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 November 2012):
 not sure what's going on but it's NOT your height that's the issue.
My mom was 5'2" Dad 6'2" they had no problems.
I am 5"2" my ex-hubby was 6'4" NO problems.
if you are not yet boyfriend and girlfriend why are you having sex with him?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 November 2012):
 I don't know why you are having sexual difficulties, but I know for sure it can't be because of height difference. You 5'3 and he 5'11 is a very common, normal height difference, but even if it were more.... I am 5'3 myself and all my partners have been between 5'11 and 6'3 and the height difference was never an issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2012): Lol I'm 5'2 and my boyfriend and 6'3 hahaha I don't know what your doing but it shouldn't cause you not to have sex. Because my boyfriend and I have sex just fine and our height difference is much more severe.
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reader, doublejack +, writes (27 November 2012):
No, height is not an obstacle to basic sexual positions such as the ones you have attempted. Height disparity can be an issue for some positions, notably those that involve standing, but in such cases the issue leads to no penetration (because the penis is inches away from the vagina) instead of being "kicked out".
What is more likely the case here is that it has to do with the size of your partner's penis and possibly the body types of the two of you. His level of arousal could be a factor too, as softer erections will act like that.
He could also be suffering from performance anxiety. You say he doesn't know you that well, and you don't get to spend much time together. Perhaps he is just very nervous and not comfortable with you yet.
My suggestion is to be patient, and maybe try some different things. For example, how about oral sex? Maybe get him worked up that way and see if intercourse goes more smoothly.
Best of luck!
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (27 November 2012):
 The hight difference isn't what causes the issues with sexual positions - That's usually attributed to the length of the mans penis - Also your body types, whether or not you're thin or overweight. These two things are what determine his full ability to gain access to the vagina.
I'm 5'3 and my ex husband was 6'3, and sex was never an issue. As was the same between me and two other sexual partners who were also over six feet tall.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2012): height has nothing to do with 'fitting'. I'm 5'4" and my husband is 6'5", and we have no problems there.
The only time you would struggle with sex would be standing up.
The issue here is not with height, but with your bodies. If you feel that he is too big, it may be because you are not turned on enough to accommodate him. Try a lot of foreplay before sex, and some lubrication, and hopefully that'll solve it for you
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