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writes:Hiya I'm Crystal and I'm dating a man named Robert.We have a great relationship and everything seems wonderful...the relationship started out as a friendship and has slowly progressed into the "love" area, and I couldn't ask for better.The only problem is some differences between us. I'm 20 and Robert is 28, and so we have some differences when it comes to movies/music we like, things we grew up with, memories of world events, etc. The thing is, I don't know if this is because of our huge age difference, or because of our cultural differences. I'm an American who moved to the UK last year, and Robert is an English citizen.I've heard from several people that you should never date someone older because all these little differences (like movies/experiences) will build up and hurt your relationship over time. But I don't know if our differences are because of our ages or because we grew up in different countries.Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2007): Seven years isn't very much, and there isn't that huge a cultural difference between America and England. It is either a good relationship or it isn't - age and the country you are from aren't significant factors.
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reader, Midge +, writes (14 May 2007):
 I can honestly say that the differences are of no consequence what so ever. I am a South African and my boyfriend is Scottish. I moved here 10 years ago and we started seeing each other a year later. He is ten years older than me, so I was 23 when we started seeing each other, he was 33.
The differences I have found to be what keeps our relationship interesting. I keep him up to speed on whats happened and happening in South Africa, and I can say without a doubt, the perception what has and is happening there is very different to what people have been told. So we sometimes have "heated" discussions about things, but it keeps things interesting, it doesnt get boring.
In the same token, I wasnt brought up with any English history knowledge other than a little insight into WW II. So he keeps me up to speed on history and politics here. Since we were brought up thinking differently about the UK, such as Margaret Thatcher etc. So he keeps it interesting for me.
Dont let other people tell you what the problem is, if you dont know, then how can they.
My boyfriend and I have VERY different tastes in music, movies etc. But, if you want the relationship to work, then you have to try and compromise. I hate black and white movies, but my boyfriend loves it. I try and watch them with him, but eventually I fall asleep, but at least I have tried. He does the same for me, and he too lands up falling asleep, but again, I appreciate it, because he has made the effort!
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