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writes: After a breakup a year ago I recently joined an online dating service at the same time as my sister who had just gone through a divorce. I would say that we are both attractive women but she has had a lot of success meeting men this way and I have not. I had a friend look at my profile and he thought it was appealing enough. My sister is in a large urban centre and I am in a smaller place so I do not know if that would make a difference. She is also younger...I am forty six and she is forty one. She has now met a great guy and is currently dating. I wonder if her flashier way and looks might make it easier. I am more understated. I do get replies but they are just not the men I am interested in. I have contacted a few men... most do not respond to my post, one way or the other. Is online dating not for everyone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2006): If you want a genuine and fiendly site use fusion 101
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2006): I recommend eHarmony.com. It is not like a regular dating website, it gets you to do quite a bit of personality profiling, and then it only lets you see people it has matched you with. It also gives you a personality profile, and a compatibility profile; it tells you what kind of person would be best for you.
I used it (briefly) a few months after I broke up with someone. I got matched with this girl, we instantly hit it off and talked for literally hours every day. Unfortunately I was not really ready to get in to a relationship, but, we did decide to stay communicating and we are pretty close friends, we know each other very, very well!
Also, I got my ex-girlfriend (who I went out with for 4 years but have now known for 8 years - we're best friends) to take it, and we got matched. Pretty crazy (but not surprising) that out of thousands of possible people it matched us together.
Try it! It's free for the profiling and matching, but, you have to pay to do any thing more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2006): With my expiernce go for it i joined a site and was very daunted by it and thought to myself what the hell am i doing on here.met somebody on there got chatting online through webcams met up and 12 months down the line im in the happiest relationship ive ever had.:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2006): Do have to find the right site as Martini says. But no, it is not for everyone. It can be a bit pretentious, people on the site not for genuine reasons. If you were to find a reasonably nice guy and he lives miles away, how would that work? There is a lot to consider. It's easy, yes and you don't have to worry about going out to meet people. But what has happened to the good old fashioned way of getting out and about, finding interests outside work and meeting people that way?!!
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reader, pica +, writes (4 August 2006):
I've had some experience of net dating and it can be daunting. Was lucky enough to meet someone in the real world but would definitely try online dating again if I end up single again. You might want to consider not writing men off so quickly - you get answers but say they're not your type. Give them a chance? Maybe they are finding it hard too. Consider widening your net area-wise? Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2006): It's good for anyone. You just have to find one that works better for you. There are tons, but you can try matchmaker.com - their system is quite good.
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