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writes:I'm 44 and have been dating a younger guy for 5 months now. He has had some major issues over the past couple of years, alot based around his financial commitments. 3 months into our relationship it transpired that he hadnt had a paypacket in a few months and had been surviving on handouts. He got himself a new job which is well paid and things were set to improve. During this time i had been subsidising him in the form of running him everywhere (he has no car) and feeding him (along with my 2 children) and got to the stage where i felt taken for granted. I went away for a couple of weeks after having an outburst at not being happy with the situation. Whilst i was away we had a couple of converstions which were fine and mostly text messages. Just before i was due to come home, he texts me to say he wants a break. Obviously i wasnt happy, and since flying back I text him to say i still wanted to make a go of things but was prepared to give hime the space he needed. My instincts tell me after a week to text him but advice from friends is just to leave him to it and he will get in touch. Its killing me that i havent heard from him, and now i'm thinking that he was just using me until he got back on his feet financially. Please can anyone give me their opinion on whether to just cut my losses, its not like i'm short of admirers, but i really felt we had a special connection. What should i do next?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2011): I don't think you can jump to any conclusions based on the information you've provided here. He MAY have been using you, but there are also genuine-hearted people out there who have financial issues and who, for whatever reason, may want to end or take a break from their relationship. These things happen. It doesn't mean he was just taking advantage of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2011): iam sorry to say this but its true he got what he needed and thats all he wanted someone to take care of him for awhile.let him be he would have been the wrong person for you.and you wouldnt want your children to learn to do someone like that.you will find that person just have fun enjoy life mr rigt out there .iam going through the same but this is my husband
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