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writes: This past year my wife of 13yrs went alone on a vacation trip to visit her male cousin in South America. A month later I found a reply email sent from him, in Spanish, to her that he can not be her lover because of the distance but if they get together they kiss, they make love etc. but there can not be any expectations of any more. I confronted her with this letter to which she replied it means nothing it is just a joke and that NOTHING happened. She had mentioned to me in the past that she did sleep with him once - a fact that when I just mentioned to her it again she said that it wasn't true and she said it only to see my reaction back then. Several other emails I read all contained words from the two of them referring to each other as "My Love" with kisses etc. She now uses a Hotmail email account - which she doesnt know I know of - because I told her to stop communicating with him if our marriage meant anything. Obviously she hasn't stopped. She is planning on going back to South America alone in 3 months - what should I do? I feel deep down that she did cheat on me and I can not not let her go. Advice anyone? We have two children as well. Is SHE CHEATING on me with her cousin? Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2007): hi brother man .if you never been to south America ,well it is time to go now and find out your self if she is cheating on you or not ,take your kids and go and if you find her cheat on you try to take some photos if you can or record them so you can have your kids in your side when you go to court .so it is a vacation any way and stop killing your self thinking all day all night . she is not the first or last woman in this world any way .but if she loves she will tell you the truth .so try eveything and be sweet to her and try to ask her that question when she is in bed with you ,most women tell the truth when the time to make love . so try it and ask her smouthly .good luck and think about it before you take extra steps .
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reader, lena +, writes (30 December 2006):
 send the guy another e-mail asking if you thought the sex was good the last time i saw you, if he replies yes then you know she has had sex with him. same as dinaleila i don't believe in spying but this is a good reason to.
good luck *hugs* xxx
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reader, DinaLeila +, writes (27 December 2006):
 It seems likely that she is. But I really wouldn't jump to any conclusions. To0 be completely honest I do not believe in spying but this is one case i would let pass by. If you can afford it hire a spy if not then I would recommend that you email him as your wife asking as many questions as you would like trying not to be obvious and see his reply if he returns the email answerring the questions you suspected then you have your proof to confront your wife with. If she is cheating remember it's her loss. If not then you may need to work on trusting her more.
Take care and update us
Leila xx
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