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*olydiver1
writes:im 17 yet i cannot get a girlfriend even though i dont really understand why. i used to be really shy but in the past few months i've started to become less heldback but i dont interest girls which is why i've given up and plan to go through life alone. what makes me feel weird is that everyday i get the train home with my friend and his girlfriend who seem to make it a point to make out in my face and it makes me feel like im lagging behind everyone of my age and the fact no-one gives a blind eye to me drives me into the dirt. im not exactly ugly nor am i a stud but i find it hard to convey myself to my friends let alone anyone im interested in. perhaps its my fear of rejection or self conciousness but it has made me give up. i wanted to know if anyone knew if im thinking too negatively or if my mind set should be the way it is?
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reader, holydiver1 +, writes (23 May 2008):
holydiver1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks guys you've helped me even if the whole get slapped be confident thing is a little weird i still appreciate. and i hope for my sake lotus mama is right.
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reader, Kathleeenie +, writes (23 May 2008):
 Dont give up yet. I used to have the same trouble, it wasnt until one guy mentioned something i realised why guys werent interested.
I was at a party there were a group of us. i was kinda turned away abit from the guys as i am too shy. One of the guys picked up on my body language, that i hadnt even noticed and said sorry am i boring u. I was angled away from them and avoided lookin at them.
So either ur giving off signals that u arent interested without realising. Or ur looking to hard n coming across desperate, girls wanna feel special, if your just after anyone they are likely to lose interest. You'll find someone when u least expect it.
even if your too shy to make conversation with a girl, if she talking to a group look at her make it look like ur interested. Even a smile from across a room can do wonders.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): dude, u r so young. And you will have a lot more chances to meet girls. But I would reccomend not gving up and not going "solo". Trust me, use ur time wisely and start talking to new girls, try to meet as many new ones as you can, and try to ask the ones that you think are cute out on a date. What can you lose? If she says no you can go back to solo or beter yet ask another girl out. You just need experience.
Also, if your friend makes out in front of you and it makes you uncomfortable, you could tell him that. If he is a good friend he won't do it to you anymore.
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (23 May 2008):
 Mate.. Please follow what I say and you'll be through this phase.. !! Trust me on this, I've helped more than 50 of my SHY FRIENDS who could not talk to Girlz.. !! My idea is WEIRED, but it works... !!
All you need to do is Find yourself a Girl, just choose anyone randomly for one day.. !! Throw all your shame away for one day with and Attitude of " We'll see whatever happens" .. !!
Just irritate her to hell... Tell her that you love her and would do anything for her.. Just keep following her and repeating... Make fun of the situation... !! Act like a fool in front of all the girlz till they laugh at your face... !! Make the Girl SLAP you.. !!
When you wake up next day, you'll have the confidence to go and talk to any girl on the planet as the LAST thing that would happen to you is that She slaps you.. Which you've already been through.. !! Make fun of all your Failures.. !!
Remember, Nobody remembers your Failures ONCE you're Succesful... ;)
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reader, lotus mama808  +, writes (23 May 2008):
 Now that you feel like you are giving up is when the girls will start noticing you. Sound nutty? Thats because girls are! They always go after a challange. When you give up, or go the "screw it, I'm going solo" route, they notice that and do their best to catch you. Weird, I know. Don't worry about your friends making out in front of you, keep in mind, there is a good chance they wont even be together in the near future. I don't mean to sound pessimistic toward them, but in most cases, thats the reality. Good luck!
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