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writes:Hi guysGosh life can change suddenly! Here's the background info for my post.My first ever relationshipI met the most amazing girl ever when I joined a school in Jan 2005, it was love at first site (although I didn’t realise then), I didn’t realise I was even flirting! lol She found me to be a bit weird. I relaxed and acted myself by September 07 we were in love! We flirted like hell (although very discreetly only a couple of our friends noticed). Then she approached me twice and I didn’t react (as I was unsure being my first ever relationship), I was a complete mupet!I tried to give her a signal by making a move a week later, I asked for her number via message in class, she said she had no credit and her friend (lets call her friend 1) put down her number, why I don’t know? (Well I have a good idea obviously)She felt rejected and people dissed her for trying! She ignored me for ages, then I bought her a present earlier this month and it was like we back where we were in Sep once again. Then there was a day of silence stepping back again, although there was the occasional brief straight face gaze at one another.Now today she kept low profile, in the morning I just looked at her with a look of ‘oh I love you! I just want to be where we were before!’, friend 1 noticed and looked at me thoughtfully.Later in the day friend 1 whispered to me ‘check your cell phone’, I sent you a text message don’t tell anyone! One of friend 1’s friends noticed our discussion and asked what it was about, but friend 1 made out we were talking about something different. I checked my cell phone and it said here’s ******** number (my lover), don’t tell anyone I told you.Later on I text her back saying ‘should I text her, I thought she found me annoying?’. She replied ‘ask her about her day etc and complement her about something’. So I did as she recommended I then replied to friend 1 ‘Thanks I sent it, I guess you can sense how I really feel?’. She replied with quotes from a poem or saying or something saying:‘Love is a powerful thingLove can hold a family togetherLove can weld friends togetherBut when someone dies you fall apartWhen you die do you want people to cry because you gone or smile because you were thereSend this to everyone now because you never no when your going to goLife is too short so this a early goodbyeBe strongI’m going to look after you so smile back when I’m goneCarry on be happy!’What do you think she means by this please? Is she trying to tell me that myself and my lover should bust be friends, or that she’s going to help me with my lover.Is my lover playing hard to get? I feel she may secretly have the same need for me as I do her but she wants to show me how lucky I am to have her and how I should put all my effort in to get her wonderful self back.Thanks everyone!Apologies for the long post but I must take my moves wisely to win her back, so I think good background info is necessary.G-763P.S My lover has not responded although I feel she may be out of talk time/text credit.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (28 April 2007):
 I think the truth here is only going to come from this girl you fancy and no one else, don't trust any text only word of mouth face to face from her and no one else.
Stay back at the moment and see what happens, trust no one right now as they are all playing games at the moment.
This girl you fancy is trying to work out everything in her head and when faced with a room full of classmates and being picked on to carry out the task, I would be bright red and nervous as well. Don't reprimand yourself, pat yourself on the back for not refusing to do it.
She obviously had comments about the whole thing as she wouldn't have said something with her hand over her mouth after you walked away from her.
Sit tight and give it some time, like I said before, trust no one at the moment as texts could keep on coming to you from all sort of sources and not one of them could be genuine.
I think friend 1 calling her best mate a bitch is just so jealous and out to cause more vindictive meddling. Take everything she says with a pinch of salt as she is not to be trusted at all. She has alterior motives that one.
Just watch from the sidelines for now and watch reactions and if anything is to be said you will hear about it one way or another.
Best of luck and just continue living your life and having good times with your mates in the meantime.
Don't let any of this affect your school work though as it can be very distracting so just stay focused and alert.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, G-763 +, writes (26 April 2007):
G-763 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks again, yes I have just left her alone really but she's in all my lessons! lol Today was a classic lol. Drama with 40-50 other students and we're in a quite circle as a class. We we're learning how to present ourselves to one another. Who does the teacher pick me and her. She's sat down, I have to walk half way accross the hall (bright red by now), everyone's watching I shake her hand gentley and say 'pleasure to meet you', with a smile. She smiles (her other friends absolutely choked lol). I'm all red and quickly go back to my seat, everyone noticed lol even the teachers were laughing about it later on.I don't look at her, but wait and see what she will do. I have seen her looking at me and talking with other friends with her hand over her mouth, she's so unsure.Friend 1 texted me saying 'forget her shes a b***h and spoilte', also another person has txt me in the same style as the ligitement lover does claiming to be her. I have confirmed my lover's number, but god knows what's going on lol!Yes your right I'm a pickle lol. Her friends are playing around, she's undecicive, I don't know who's texting me. lolIt's crazy!My plan is to sit it out right?Oh and friend 1 was unsure whether my lover loved me when I asked and I asked if she had disscussed yesterdays events with my lover and she said 'no', even though I saw her lol!DAMN IT! LOLAny advice? lolThanksG-763
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (26 April 2007):
Wow, you are in a pickle aren't you.
I have to pop out now but I will try and help if I can maybe later on this evening.
I one thing I would say is don't get yourself so churned up inside.
You have given this girl a lot to think about and now she is also wondering who her friends are so just give her some space and see what happens next.
I know things feel a 100 times worst at the moment but there not believe me.
You have just thrown her off balance at the moment with a text saying how much you like her and all the time she thought it was her ex texting her so patience is the way to go I think at the moment.
Keep yourself busy though as the time will fly that way.
Speak soon.
Country Woman
P.S. Thanks for the compliment and no offence taken honest.
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reader, G-763 +, writes (25 April 2007):
G-763 is verified as being by the original poster of the question'Country Woman', I mean this a polite way but, lady you are damn good your precise, friend 1 has 'mucked' up (shall we say) my relationship!
Today my lover replied by text asking who I was, I said 'who do you think?'. She replied 'ummm... is it ****** (the name of her X) xxx', I replied 'oh gosh it's not you wont wanna know but its me 'G-763'. The their was radio silence lol. I said 'oh I have made a big mistake please talk to friend 1'. She replied 'What do you mean?', I said '****** I really really like you, but I don't think you feel the same way, sorry it's a mistake texting you it must be annoying, I'm sorry'. Then there has been silence ever since, we don't even stnd near eachover or look at eachover it's crazy!!!! She glanced at me for 1 second today and ther was no emotion in the look!
I don't understand is it over or do I wait and give her loads and loads of time, now I have said what I had to say. Sadly 'country woman' I left home before you posted so I couldn't use your advice.
Everyone, I would appreciate any advice please, I have known this girl 839 days as of today (25th April)! I can't just forget about her!
Regards
G-763
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female
reader, Country Woman +, writes (25 April 2007):
I have to say that going through a third party is never good, I realise you have found this all very confusing but I think friend 1 has her own motives here and possibly has feelings for you herself.
I would try and get a chance to speak to the girl you fancy on a one to one basis with no one else around and say you need to talk to her as it is driving you insane by getting mixed messages through her friend.
Say you just need to make sure what the truth is in all of this..
I wish you all the luck in the world and I am sure you will get more answers as well so take a bit of everyone's advice but ultimately you know how strongly you feel about this girl so don't let everyone else influence you it is your life and so it is always worth a shot no matter what the outcome is.
BFN
Country Woman
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