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writes:I initiated anal sex with my husband, we tried twice but could not get it right, then the third time we did, but once again I initiated it. Afterwards he said that it does'nt bug him and that he does not worry about it. I wan't to try it again but I don't want to ask if he is not intrested. could you please give me your opinion
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (26 May 2011):
It seems you are afraid to say to him "I want to try having anal sex a bit more, but I am not sure you are interested and am hesitant to push it if you aren't into it, but I don't know how you feel about it."
A more significant question is why you feel you can't have this conversation with your husband? Sounds like you are afraid of something here.
Our opinions around his feelings would be highly speculative and not worth much. Ask him, have a direct conversation about it. This is something you probably need to discuss openly before attempting.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): Um, let it go for awhile. When me and my boyfriend tried it, it was very difficult to get it right. The first time, I was in so much pain, I cried, and my stomach felt like it was having a charlie horse...so it scared him off, and he didn't want to try again. weeks later, we were laying in bed, side by side, and i felt his "hard on", and we just slowly went into it. No discussion or anything. Asking him, it may make him feel awkward...(if he doesnt want too, and it may even make him feel pressured), so making it an option, without telling him (laying on the side naked, and having the option of the two areas), If he slides it not in the anal, then...he doesn't want it, but if he does...theres the answer!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): I don't know your husband so I can't tell, but as a man I personally find it enjoyable.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (25 May 2011):
 HI
as he seems to be not so interested as you are, im guessing he does not like this. Not all men do! Some people feel that is an outty not a innie if you catch my drift? dont keep on at him about it, because it could ruin your sex life. It's like when a man is asking his girl for a BJ and she dont like it, and he keeps bringing the subject up, she will start to feel pressured and go off him and QUICKLY, the same thing here. I admire that you want to explore new things, but some things are better left un explored.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): Maybe he just doesnt have a prefferance? Or maybe he prefers vaginal but doesnt mind anal. Or it could be that he enjoys it but isnt as into it as you are. In my experience there are 2 types of men. Men that love anal and men that will do it but its not their thing. Thats just my experience though.
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