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writes:Hi, my partner has recently bought two new mobile phones, a new one to replace the one he had just bought and the other one to put in his car, he says it doesant have a sim in it, but it fits his charger which is fitted into his car, so if the phone that he's got runs out of battery he can while he's out he can put his sim into that one and use that, I mean, I don't know if I'm being overly sensitive, but I just don't feel that he's being truthful, he was caught out txting a married woman about a year ago behind everyones backs and I stayed with him and although I do trust him more than I did there's always an air of caution with me, he knows I find it hard 2 trust completely and he dusnt seem 2 care that it might bother me. Bizarelly, in the time that we hav been 2gethr he's changed his phone/number so many times, maybe six times a year and even though we have two mobiles unused in the house he went and bought these two new one's, I think at the end of the day my man will do what he wants in any given situation and if there is an opportunity there he will take it,so that makes me worry
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): If you feel it's wrong then get rid! Ur feelings should not be ignored because they are right. Some people, are intune with their gut feelings. The mind stores things into little boxes that it's learned before so when you get bad feelings, your body is alerting you to, a recognised patern.
Don't even stay around to be hurt because, that's all you will be waiting for. He betrayed you before and you forgave him so he, thinks that he can get away with it again. Just look at ashely Cole.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2011): OMG! Get rid if you have any sense. Your boyfriend is one of those serial cheating types! Don't mean to upset you or anything but, i just want to make you aware of what your involved in.To many men, who have girlfriends, cheat, just for the heck of it, or because they know they can get away with it and fancy it. Sadly, that's how a'lot of men work. Even some men that are so into their girlfriend still cheat. How do i know? Well a few men with girlfriends, have hit on me, and their girlfriends would never think their boyfriends would do this. Even the ones that are meant to be so in love with their girlfriends still cheat. I know it's not nice to think about but it's better, to see it for what it is than delude yourself and be hurt.That is so dogy, what your boyfriend is doing. Why would he need another phone for? In his car aswell come on, that's so dogy :-/ i really wouldn't trust that. Not with knowing what men are like! That's why i said he's a serial cheat because, no doubt, he's trying to pull women all the time and what not else. It really wouldn't be very hard to hide a sim card.You say that he was msging a married women behind ur back before. Well that should have shown you what he's really like, but sadly, to many women, listen to their hearts over common sence because they are in love with their boyfriends and buy into his sorrys and what not, but, if someone was sorry, then they wouldn't have done it in the first place, more like, sorry they got caught. I don't think that, women, who love their boyfriends, would feel he same, if they could see their boyfriends for what they really were, doing. the things they do behind their girlfriends backs.I wouldn't, say all this if i really wasn't, sure. I would, probably tell you i wasn't sure. I don't know you though and don't owe you any favours but i really do want you to see sence! You should always trust ur gut feeling, when it comes to feelings. It's never really wrong. Your body, picks up small things, that are not quite right. Like, if ur feeling paranoid about, a group of people talking about you behind, ur back, they probably are because, subconsciously, ur picking up on their body language and your body is alerting you that something, is not right. I know that you have, trust issues so i can understand, why you feel the way you do, but i honestly wouldn't, trust if i was you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2011): Hire a private Investigator to get some proof.. it's clear that he is testing some girls again.. I'm not buying his alibis.. Once you got some proof of his wrong doings then maybe you have to consider filing for a divorce. If he can't change then let him do what he wants and you? you deceive to be happy with an honest and faithful person.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (23 April 2011):
 No, phones don't usually even work like that. You have to activate the phone to the plan for it to work and you'd have to do that each time it switches, plus it would take way more time to put the sim card in the phone than to put the phone in his pocket and carry it to the car with him. And if the charger didn't fit, it would cost a lot less to buy a new charger than a new phone. Everything about his story is basically how much work he has to go through to save himself some work. It makes zero sense. There are so many problems with his story I can't even go through all of them here. He's hiding something, and since he's been texting another woman in the past, my guess is that this is something similar. You guy clearly is doing something really suspicious on his cell to be switching phones and numbers all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2011): Certainly seems like he has an addiction to phones?
A friend of mine has an absent minded son who keeps losing his mobile. And has had to replace it seceral times.
I cannot imagine wanting to frequently change my mobile number. It would be so inconvenient to have to advise everyone of my new number each time. I've changed phones when i wanted to, but always kept my original number and my original Sim.
Is he trying to cut off contact with a pesky or persistant ex?
Phones come with a Sim. Tiny, easy to hide in a wallet. It is unlikely that he threw it away. Perhaps his extra phone is a prepaid? = no pesky phone records for you to find?
It is likely that he does have that other Sim secreted somewhere - and can access it, to put into his existing or spare phone whenever it suits him to do so.
Find that spare Sim.
The Sim may even be in that phone in the car. Could you accidentally borrow that phone in his car?
There is something fishy going on. Not sure what yet?
If you find the Sim especially if it is in the car phone then it may prove interesting if you access the contacts and the log of calls received and made.
Do not accuse him of anything until you have solid proof.
Otherwise he will just react with classic cheaters response - which is to feign total angry outrage that you would dare to doubt him. And classsic 'i am so hurt that you would dare to doubt me' - when in truth he could be lying through his teeth. Angry only because he is angry at being discovered.
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