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writes:one day in an ocassion, me and my girlfriend's first cousin who is a guy have been drinking. for a while he left me and without knowing, he goes to my girlfriend's room. it took a couple hours after he get back. i asked my girlfriend if what they did. she told me that they just talk about something.. perhaps about the guys father. then i told her, if they talk about something, why should they talk far from me and take note it's in her room. i don't know if my girlfriend is telling me the truth. many things are coming into my mind and i don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all the advice.. im still bothered
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 May 2012):
 Are you saying that you think she was sexual with her cousin?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the answer. i dont know it just came into my mind that they might did something else. please give me advice
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 May 2012):
sometimes folks need to talk in private especially if it's about sensitive family matters.
what do you think actually happened and why would you think that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2012):
It's her cousin!! He is allowed to talk to her in her room, you seem to suspect that they are somewhat more than cousins. Have they ever done anything else suspicious in the past to make you feel like this or is it just simply because he is a guy and had been drinking and you assume something happened.
I think if you accuse her of anything it might really disguist her so be really careful with this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2012): It's her cousin firstly, so I really don't see what the peoblem is. Did it occur to you that maybe what they were talking about is about some personal problems that HE is having in his life, which is none of your business. I have had conversations with my male cousin in my bedroom when he was going through a divorce. My boyfriend was not included in the conversation because it was my cousin's personal business. I would suggest that your girlfriend is being truthful with you that they just talked, and you should really take a hard look at why you are so insecure that she can't even talk to a male family member without you becoming insecure and jealous. Also try to learn that just because you are in a relationship with someone does not mean that if someone else in their family or friends has a problem they talk with your partner about that you automatically have to be included or have any right to be informed of what their conversation was about. I don't mean to sound harsh, but I know for myself if my boyfriend doubted me, and insinuated that something else had gone on with my relative, I would break up with him in an instant, because not only does he not trust me, but his opinion of me must be that low that there is really no point in me being in a relationship with him.
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reader, jasonvpn +, writes (22 May 2012):
Maybe they had some family stuff they had to talk about. Its her first cousin, I assume that sort of relationship is frowned upon where you're from as well..
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2012): Think about how she acts around you. If she is a little distant and tends to get a little irritated then you might have a problem. If she acts normal and talks without any attitude than you should be home free. Talk to the cousin though if you still arnt sure, he might have some answers for you.
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