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writes:Ok, so my girlfriend and I had tried anal sex a long time ago and she didn't like it, but we didn't do the "prep" work to make it enjoyable, sort of just were spontaneous about it...big mistake.Anyhow, I can care less, but she asked for it then and she now seems to be more and more turned on by stimulation of her anus.In fact, it started out as just stimulating the exterior as I would give her oral sex, then it was a finger, then multiple fingers and last night she orgasmed mainly off of me fingering her ass alone (i was giving her oral but the majority of the focus was on the ass). Also brings up a question as afterwards she was like, my ass is sore did you do anything to it, which confused me as I know I was fingering her ass, but it made me wonder if her O was that intense that she didn't realize what I was doing to her.But my main question is this a sign that she wants anal sex? If so, do I just continue and wait for her to ask for it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): Dude- you had several fingers in her ASS and you're wondering if she NOTICED? Hell yes she noticed! Stick 2 fingers in your ass and see if you NOTICE!... she got off on what you did- so, next time you're in bed with her, simply repeat the performance... start fingering her ass, make sure you ahve some lube and get her off again. Go down on her while you're fingering her and get her off... once you get her used to having her anus stretched you'll be in a great position to take it to the next level and work toward intercourse. She may be too shy to ask, or talk about it, but when it happens, she may gladly accept it... how you bring her to beg for it is up to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): Thanks for the input.
As far as knowing it was from oral, compared to anal, I am not too sure, but maybe. It's just two things, the fact that she orgasmed much faster than normal and her orgasm paralleled the stimulation of the anus and secondly the attention I was giving the oral was minimal and if she orgasmed off of that alone then I do have some mad oral skills.
But maybe you all are right, it's not a given that she wants anal penetration, just because she gets off on anal stimulation. If she wants it she will let me know.
She didn't say it hurt, just said it was sore but not in a painful way. Just felt like something had been in there, it felt different. It still astonishes me that she didn't realize that I basically finger fucked her ass. Her orgasm was that intense that it put her into euphoria.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (8 November 2009):
 Just ask her directly. Saves a lot of misunderstanding. Besides, i'm of the opinion that if you're not able to talk about something, you shouldn't be doing it.
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (8 November 2009):
Lots of people do enjoy anal stimulation but don't enjoy full penetrative ananl sex so this is not necessarily and indictaion that she's going to want to try it again.If it is sign that she wants anal sex and you have an realtionship based on trust, she'll ask if she wants it so all you can do is wait.I also don't think there's anything wrong with you telling her that she seems to enjoy anal stimulation and if you do all the prep work first would she like to try again. If she says no, just leave it at that!
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