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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hey I'm recently dating a guy that is 2 years older than me but while he was in high school with me he had a huge crush on me. we are planning to get married and everything. But a couple of months ago i found out that he has a baby by my extended cousin. I really don't know how we are related but when i found out it was a BIG Disaster. He told me i had nothing to worry about. Cause he was with me. She said she wasn't bothered by me dating him. Until now..her feelings has changed. I'm constantly arguing with my bf because I'm not sure if he is still fooling around with his baby mama. When he is with me he constantly ignores her phone calls. but one day i found out that he lied to her and said he was watching the game when reality is he was with me. Why is he lying about being with me? If he loves me like he says he do why would he try to hide it from her? Recently i just found out, from him that she's been secretly trying to get with him. He told me he doesn't want her and that he loves me but i cant seem to find it in my heart that he is telling the truth. Can some one please tell me what i should do?? Should i give up on this engagement??
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reader, mezzo_soprano_reader +, writes (11 January 2010):
 1. He was fooling around and now has a baby?
2. You had the 'intelligence' to still be with an irresponsible person knowing that?
3. He was with your cousin?
4. She still wants him?
5. He lied to you and you found out?
6. He's older than you, and yet you're smarter than him?
Deary, the only advice I can give you is, you're at the last steps of high school. Don't make it stressful. Dump the boy and the fact he's probably not even doing anything for his kid and the kid's mother, and go get yourself a real man who's clean cut and a good thing for your 'glory years' of high school.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2010): If you can't trust him then you need to break it off. Otherwise this is going to go on for the rest of the time you are with him, however long that may be. You are so young, and there are so many fish in the sea. Break up with him and go find someone that you can be secure with.
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