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writes:Alright I have a foot fetish and I would like to know if that's something women can appreciate I mean when I was in high school it seemed like I was some kind of freak and now I feel like like that's why I get turned down it seems like its a giant road block and I just can't seem to get close when I feel like I'm hiding it from whoever I'm seeing u would appreciate some insight thnx in advance Reply to this Question
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reader, xAx  +, writes (19 August 2009):
 Yes, i do think that some woman can appreciate this. My bf has a foot fetish and i don't mind. I'm just happy he gives me attention.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): I don't think this should keep you from intimacy, or be a block. I can understand you feeling nervous about telling new partners, especially if you was made to feel like a "freak" about your fetish. But really, lots of people have unusual or different preferences, things that turn them on. And actually, this isn't so unusual, or unheard of. It is more common than you might think, and certainly nothing weird.
Okay, I don't think you should tell someone right away, not because it is something to be ashamed of, but because if you make a big issue of it, it will seem like a big issue. Does that make sense? For example, I have mental health problems, have done since an early age. It used to be one of the first things I would tell a guy. "Oh, just thought I should warn you, I have mental health problems..." See what I mean? Why should it be a big issue? It's nothing to be ashamed of, and it doesn't change who you are.
So once you have gotten to know someone better, you could just casually tell them. Don't make a big deal of it, just calmly let them know. It doesn't have to be a block in the relationship. Some people don't mind this kind of fetish at all. And if they do, then you can always come to some sort of compromise, where you are both happy and getting what you want.
So I think the first step is to try and break down this opinion you have about your fetish being "weird", or of being a "freak". It is not weird, and you are not a freak. Once you are able to accpet this part of yourself better, things will become easier. Hope this helps, good luck! x
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