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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:About this time last year an ex of mine (who i was with for over a year a half by the way) split up with me and immediately found a new girlfriend who he's been with since we broke up. A month after we'd broken up he started a conversation with me out of the blue, and it was as though we hadn't broken up. He soon started telling me that he wanted a break from her because he expected too much of her, and that breaking up with me was his punishment because he was now with someone who wouldn't give him what I gave him. I'd just gone into another relationship with someone and he could see that I was happy, wishing he could have the same happiness. We didn't really maintain contact.They did start dating again and a few months later he initiated contact with me again - I never initiate contact with exes. He started asking me about my love life and how things were. I mentioned two male friends and all he could do was criticize their looks (he searched for them online). His criticisms made me quite angry. Soon he started asking me: 1) if I ever think about him, 2) WHEN I think about him, 3) whether I'd kept everything he'd ever given me, mainly clothes and little presentsand then started telling me who I could and couldn't date and all about the great times we had together, how I looked the first day we met etc.I really don't know what this guy wants. I know for a fact he wouldn't want to get back with me because he's afraid of my family and with such heavy schedules it was always difficult to meet regularly. I'm everso confused :/(Oh, and he knows I'm currently with someone, too, and he doesn't like him either).Please someone help :(
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 My advice sweetheart is to keep well away from him. He finished with you and he found himself another girl but then he saw that you were happy with someone else and my guess is he didnt want you to be with someone else. Therefore he contacted you to boost his own ego and figure out if you still thought of him.
Alot of the time a guy will finish with a girl and then when he sees her with someone else he doesnt like it. Its like a territorial thing. He doesnt want you anymore but he does not want another guy to have you.
He is the one that broke up with you and now he needs to live with that. Your best bet is to get him out of your life completely and ask him not to contact you again.
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