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*ershey1kiss2
writes:So this girl I used to talk to wouldn't commit to me for 3 years but then got upset when she went through my phone and saw I talked to other girls even tho we weren't seeing each other anymore but remained friends. but before that she kept saying she couldn't date or commit. Or not want to put a label on things and then ended things anyways. I cut her off because I felt hurt that she ended up finally committing to someone else few months later. So I blocked her and told her we can't talk anymore. Then few months later she made a fake Facebook account to message me. But pretended to be an old friend of hers asking me questions about if me and her still talk or tell me stuff about herself. Why would a girl do that? Especially when she never truly wanted me she always had a excuse or reason to not be with me then found an excuse to write me off completely. Another fake account tried adding me another 2 times in the last 4 months too. I also went to message the 1st fake but I was blocked.Then yesterday:"She" was in the lobby of my office building. I've changed jobs too. I walked up to her and said "exsuse me is that so and so". She said "no". She looked upset and was in the phone too. Her voice didn't sound like her though but perhaps because she looked upset about something. Maybe it was a very good look alike over but everything was exactly on point in her appearance. I just got mind fucked.
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reader, hershey1kiss2 +, writes (8 August 2017):
hershey1kiss2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlright then. She is a waste of time
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 August 2017):
 You spend 3 years with her, so it's only natural that you CARE(D) for her. And there is nothing wrong in hoping she might change her mind, but even that is not in your best interest. If she couldn't commit to you after 3 years, do you think she ever could?
You have ONE life OP, make it the BEST you can. Don't sit around and wait for her to maybe, perhaps, change her mind.
You and her, it didn't work.
Chin up.
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reader, hershey1kiss2 +, writes (7 August 2017):
hershey1kiss2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou l are Wright. Truth is did love her and I still do have feelings for her. But I know she's bad for me. I was kind of hoping she missed me but it is a waste of time.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 August 2017):
Now that you know it was probably her you also know to NOT get into conversations with people claiming to be her friends or whatnot. Just don't accept anyone you don't know in person. That would make sense regardless.
IF there was nothing threatening about that first FB questions/info then all you can do it block it.
SHE can make as many FB pages as she wants. Is it a bit crazy? To make fake accounts so that she can talk to you? About herself? Yes. Is it stalking? Probably not. She is keeping herself fresh in your mind. And it's working, isn't it?
Have you moved on? Have you said to yourself:" I have spent 3 years with this girl and nothing came of it. She has sort of moved on and I should too."
Trying to figure out WHY she is doing this is a waste of YOUR time. It will only make you feel as NUTTY as you think SHE is.
She isn't doing this out of care for you. That much you know, so let it go.
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reader, hershey1kiss2 +, writes (7 August 2017):
hershey1kiss2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat about that first fake facebook account that actually messaged me about her?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 August 2017):
Why does she do it?
She doesn't WANT you to move on, in case the new guy doesn't work out.
Keep blocking her.
If you have changed work place and she showed up there it might be a coincidence, after all, it doesn't sound like it WAS her? I mean you didn't totally recognize her?
Go about your life and if you get anymore adding of "seemingly random" people just block them right off the bat. I would also suggest you go over your privacy setting and set them to the highest level you can so she can't really "stalk" you on there.
Looking at your Facebook is not stalking and "maybe" showing up at your office is not stalking either unless it starts to be a pattern.
I think you need to let her go on every level.
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