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writes:my ex and I broke up about 2 months ago after a 9 month tumultuous relationship. A week after we broke up I moved out of our apartment. As I moved out our apartment she requested that we stay friends. I really didn't want to but being that we still share a lease I agreed. 6 days after moving out of the apt she sends a text telling where she is and that she's there on a date. I was so hurt. I refused to talk to her for the next month and a half. She in the meantime called non stop trying to explain. She said she didn't want me to get it wrong as she still cared about me. Anyway a month and a half later I called her as the lease still concerned me. In that conversation we talk briefly about the money and taking me out of the lease but our conversation strays to our relationship. She says that she has changed so much and that everything we had problems with she has fixed in her new relationship. She also says that she's happy and that things happen for a reason. I tell her that her happiness makes me happy as well. We then agree to meet in a week to get the rest of my stuff and get me out of the lease. 3 weeks have passed and she still has not called knowing how desperately I want to be done with all our connections. In addition, I noticed that she has put new pics if her new bf on facebook but has not removed the ones of me and her kissing and being together. Is she messing with me? Why won't she expedite our business?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): She might be ok with the new person but has still not been able to let go of you completely. Sorting the lease makes it final, but for your own peace of mind I would insist that you get this done so that you can move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): I think it's her way to get even with you and I agree with Rhythmandblues2. That's my opinion. As a matter of fact, i am in exactly the same position as you but its my ex who is doing this to me. He was the one who insisted to give me back something as well as take his stuff from me but now he wont cooperate and wont respond. I don't know what he wants. But i have decided to just let it go. One thing's for sure..he cant expect anything from me anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): I don't know if she is messing with you, but why don't you call her and set a time to take care of your business and be done with it. She has moved on and so should you.
It sounds like she is in a rebound relationship which is about using the other guy to get over you and it is a bit immature. The fact that she posted new pictures this quickly is kind of immature as well. If your relationship was rough the whole nine months, she may be hard to get along with "for a reason" and I would say you dodged a bullet.
You don't have to be friends with her if you don't want to, ask her to stop contacting you all together after you get out of the lease and that way you will both have time to get over the break up and then if you want to be friends then do so, but right now it would be pretty hard to do so.
If you want to get her back then I think she is trying to make you jealous and trying to tell you that she has changed without begging you to come back. But if that is the direction you want things to go ask yourself if you really think things would get better or if you would just be headed for the same problems..because break ups usually do happen for a good reason.
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