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writes:i dumped a very close friend. she was getting to be a pain. she got insecure and always wanted me to spend time with her. and if i did not and did things with others, she would wonder if i just do not like her company. partly, i may have a role because i do not like to share everything. so if i had other plans i would just say i need to be elsewhere and never say what i had to do even if she asked me. she got possessive n stuff. i dumped her cold as i was very stressed having to keep telling her that she is not the problem and i have other things to do.now i know a few things since i dumped her:1) she has been thinking to play a prank on me. like someone died in her family to see if i would care and be there.2) i have seen her a few times drive by my place and slow down right when her car would go by my house. i do live on a busy street. but i wonder if she was there to spy on me or to come by and say something to me. or if she just passed by and i am thinking too much.3) its been 9 months and she still feels very guilty about acting stupid but she also still wonders if i was a truthful friend or not.i waited to see what would happen. i got an apology instead. she said sorry for being so insecure/jealous and she hopes i can forgive her. she realizes she made the friendship taxing.is she ok?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): Well, she was certainly very "clinging" and was imposing herself on you. That indicates an insecure personality, but, if she has had time to think and truly realises what she was, and made an honest apology, it is possible she is being honest with you now. Use your own best judgement as to whether you want to renew the friendship. But do not feel guilty if you choose not to. Friendship is not possessive. And it seemed to be a very one-sided "friendship" with you doing all the giving..of your time and space...and she doing all the taking. Think about if you want to risk going through all that again.
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reader, none_none +, writes (2 February 2009):
none_none is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni use a lot of websites that users ask questions to get answers to like this one. and i have seen questions posted by my ex-friend to try to find out opinions from others on te situation.
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