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writes:Ok so I know no one on here would be able to give me a perfect answer without knowing my ex-bf, lets call him David, but I would just like to know what other people might think about this. So David and I have been dating for 3 years. We both fell head over heels in love with one another. We had been planning our future together and David even said 6 months ago that one day he is going to marry me. Our sex life is great. He initiates sex often and the sex is always great. We've had, what I felt like, a perfect relationship. One month ago, however, he broke it off with me quite suddenly. By suddenly I mean we still had a great relationship up until the day he broke up with me, still having great sex( actually had sex the night before we broke up) and he hasn't been making himself distant from me at all. He never gave me a proper reason for breaking up except that he just wanted to be friends. A week after the break up he told me he was gay. After the initial shock I asked him if he thought he was bi but he said to me "no I'm definitely gay". He wants to be friends but he is refusing to talk to me about coming out as he says he is still confused. I want to help him but at the same time I'm so confused as to how David, who I have never questioned his sexuality can be gay? So my question is, do you think that David is just confused and experimenting? Or is he really gay? I have a best friend who is gay. I just never figured that David was gay. He has come out to everyone at his work that he is gay
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reader, Atsweet1  +, writes (16 December 2012):
 He is gay back in the past he was bi or bi.curious. Lol I can tell plus I think know and feel most are gay or bi anyway secrectly. I was shock when I found out but not really cause Im bi leaning more toward the same sex also. Its not un normal for men to be married down low and gay all in one that's life. Aleast he admits it most will not ever admit it for nothing in the world. And ps I appear to attract those types secrect gays downlows and bi men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2012): Well, if he went as far as to tell everyone at his work that he's gay, then maybe he is gay. I'm a woman and while I would have sex with another woman for my husband's sake, I can't imagine my husband having sex with another man just for the sake of it. Um...quite strange... Can gay men get hard-ons with women??? Geesh. Maybe you should ask a gay guy. He might be able to shed more light on this situation. Good luck sweetie. Either way though, doesn't sound like you did anything wrong.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (16 December 2012):
Well, he's obviously not 100% gay, because I consider myself more or less 100% straight and I would never initiate gay sex.
That being said there's no reason to think he's making this up. Honestly, he might have cheated on you with another guy and realized what was going on with himself. He may have felt ashamed to be with you anymore or confused about it.
Either way it's safe to say you didn't do anything wrong, it's obvious the break up had everything to do with his sexuality... this is something he's got to figure out on his own.
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