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writes: I don't know how i feel about my ex. When we were together it was amazing, my best ever relationship, and i think because of that i feel as though i'm really close to him now. We're friends, but i don't think he realises how significant he is to me. We talk on the phone for hours on end, and i tell him my innermost feelings that i've never felt the desire to share with anyone before. He's one of the few people that actually gets me, but as i've never really remained friends with an ex before i don't really know what's 'normal'. We flirt all the time, and reminice over our sexual experiences with each other. Because this situation is new to me i have no idea of my feelings for him, and it's getting to me. But more than that, what's getting to me is that i don't know what he thinks of me. I know if i asked him he'd say i'm a friend, but i can't help but feel maybe there's more to it than that. I'm 15 and he's 18, and it was an issue for him when we were going out. Maybe he's waiting for me to be 16 as he'd feel it a respectable age for him to date me? He keeps talking to me about my birthday, which is on 3rd of June. We're seeing more and more of eachother, and even as i type this i am feeling more sure that this is what he's doing. I need the opinion of someone who's not in the situation. Thanks xx
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (18 May 2006):
 I think the only sure way you can know is to ask outright. Sometimes exs stay friends and sometimes they do not, there is no hard and fast rules, it tends to depend on how the break-up went and other things. Generally speaking it is true that an ex is a special kind of friend though because they have an intimate knowledge other friends do not.
I think the best thing you can do is tell him how you are feeling about this and ask him what his feelings are and go from there. Hope that helps.
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