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writes:Why did a man I know fondle my wedding ring? Is there any way this is NOT flirting? I happen to know he is married too. And on top of this, he is my doctor. Do you think this behavior is strange?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2019): Inconclusive! How do you fondle a wedding ring? If he didn't touch any flesh, I don't have any idea what he was doing!
We receive a lot of posts from women claiming their male doctors are making advances; but the danger behind most of those claims is the lack of details. Sometimes it's wishful-thinking, and they are the ones attracted to the doctor.
In many cases they are over-reading every move the doctor makes. If the doctor has polite chat or looks them in the eyes when talking to them. They assume he's interested in more than their health. Most times patients are nervous or apprehensive, and the doctor is only being nice to calm you down.
If you're touched in ways you've never been touched by a doctor before; or examined in places that don't make sense, you would know. Excessive fondling of your private areas or lingering touching of your breasts should be a pretty good giveaway. Groping is obvious, because it is totally non-medical. I have never heard of someone fondling a ring! Was it still on your finger at the time?
Was the ring tight? Maybe he was jiggling the ring to see if there was swelling in your fingers. If your hands were swollen and the ring couldn't move; he may have been checking to see if it was too tight, It could cutoff circulation in your finger. Fingers swell due to high blood-pressure, or water retention.
You can ask questions. Why did you do that?
It's quite difficult to tell you what he was doing, because we weren't there. You've been to doctors dozens of times over your lifetime; and should be able to tell if something feels inappropriate and extremely unusual.
If he can't explain it, or it seems shady, it's inappropriate.
The questions is, do YOU think it's strange?
If you feel uncomfortable about him, change doctors. You don't stick around to find-out if he's trying to be inappropriate. He shouldn't get another chance at it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2019): You do give any real details as to how this fondling of your wedding ring occured, but my question to you is this, why did the doctor have access to your hand to allegedly do this? If the doctor shook my hand, I would withdraw my hand and not let my married doctor hold my hand. After all, he is a professional and a married one, at that! It is polite to be cordial, but wise to remember that medical visits are not social calls. If you or any lady perceives flirting from her physician or anyone, that lady has the power to nip that problem incident in the bud! I want my doctors mind on my good health, not on trying to get in my pants! Let us not permit drama, or manufacture drama where none exists! Are we not women? Are we not equal to men? Can we not navigate this world on our own? You can call your doctor out, right to his face if he gets inappropriate! Confront him and read him the riot act! Being a kind woman does not mean we are devoid of responsibility for ourselves and what we will tolerate. Good Day!
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