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41-50,
anonymous
writes: Himy bf was really moody and nasty with me for the past 2 weeks. I felt very depressed and scared that he is going to dump me again ( he already did twice) and called him yesterday middle of the night.When i logged into IM today to chat with him, he accused me of being an Psycho and when i asked why he is saying so, he refused to talk to me anymore and signed off.Is he trying to dump me again? Did i lose all my chances with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): Why are you letting him treat you like that? You're the one that should be breaking up with him! He's a jerk, and you deserve so much better.
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reader, Abella +, writes (28 January 2011):
It sounds like your antenna is picking up the vibes that he's getting restless and unappreciative.
Being moody and nasty is not the way to treat to anyone. I cannot imagine any woman would appreciate been treated in such a nasty manner by her partner.
He is compounding the problem by being mean and nasty.
Of course you sound anxious and concerned. In the circumstances i think yours is a reasonable response, to his change in behavior.
Surely he realises his actions are hurtful to you?
Surely he realises your reactions are in direct proportion to his level of nastiness?
In a happy relationship a good guy is kind and considerate, not abusive and not name calling like your guy.
And in return is your guy kind, considerate, empathic? No, not this one. He could not be more unsypathetic if he tried. Calling you names is not the reaction of a gentleman.
My of my.
He is acting up like a petulant Peter.
His behavior is the sort of silly, nasty acting up that boorish immature guys employ when they are trying to get the girl to finish the relationship.
You can find a better guy who will treasure you.
You don't want to lose your guy. But are you just remembering the good times? And hoping the nice guy will return?
Would you consider a 6 month break. Go out with other guys, and see if other guys treat you better than your guy.
Because an abusive relationship is never
better than a good guy.
Maybe have a big think of how you Really want to be treated?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): To be honest hun, someone who treats you like that is'nt worth it. He doesnt seem to care about you, and you can probably do a lot better. I know its hard but i would move on and hold on to your pride.
Good Luck
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reader, Cherrie_StPierre +, writes (28 January 2011):
This doesn't sound like a very good relationship. If he has already broken up with you twice and it sounds like this is the third time, to me, it sounds like he has no love for you at all and you shouldn't waste your time. Anyone who calls their girlfriend a psycho because she is concerned about the relationship is not worth the drama. xoxoxox
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): Dear Down-in-the-dumps,
It seems to me that you are holding onto false hope of their ever being a meaningful relationship with this boy.
The fact that he has already ended your relationship twice should sound warning bells in your head that he is really just not that into you.
A break-up is called a break-up because it is broken, something about you guys just don't click...a boy that is truly into you, will not want to be away from you.
Collect up the remains of your dignity and move on.
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