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writes: I am stuck in a rut!! My boyfriend is really getting to me. I got a call two weeks ago from his ex to say she was out for dinner with him and talking about getting back together. On the night in question he did not answer his calls for 3 hours, he said he was in a meeting. Two days ago I realised he has replaced condoms (that I had bought) with completely different ones. He has denied that he has been with anyone else and also adamant that he was not with his ex that she phoned him and he said he was at a meeting. I have nobody to turn to and really don't know what to do. I love him dearly and am very confused. Also two of his ex's turn up at his place when I'm there and he tells them he doesn't want to know them and that he loves me. I have witnessed this.
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reader, not again +, writes (26 October 2005):
sounds dodgy. trust your instincts on this one. there seems to be an overwhelming stack of evidence which makes him seem really guilty. Do you want to ring one of the exes and just ask them out right?
I know it is hard to leave him if you're not 100% sure, but it don't sound good. You have asked him outright havent you? The big thing is not to let yourself get hurt= ie jealous etc. Your instincts might have to be anough for this one... unless you higher a prvate investigator! But f you're not feeling the trust then thats probably because there isnt any there.. wish you all the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): Dont trust anyone! I think you should get out while you can. Love is not as important as TRUST. If you dont trust him leave him, let these other girls be played around by him. You can do better, believe me, i've been there!
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reader, clarence +, writes (25 October 2005):
if you really love this man, then you should have an element of trust between the two of you, if there is no trust then you need to work at it, it sounds to me as though the ex girlfriends are trying to cause trouble, why not ask your boyfriend to change his no, then the ex's cannot contact him at all, if he really loves you then he will do this for you x
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reader, Topps +, writes (25 October 2005):
Sometimes if you feel something is wrong you are right to feel that way. Sometimes they are innocent. How will you know unless he confesses or you believe him. That is the harsh reality. I am sure there are many more details you could of added to your comments.
Perhaps his ex saw him out, and used the chance to wind you up (it worked). What reason did your bf give for her call, Why does she have your number?
Your choices are, believe him and see what happens, or leave him...The only confusion in this case is choosing which one you think you want to do. I dont envy you, so good luck
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