A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Okay so here it goes 2 1/2 years ago I met my wonderful boyfriend we do things together help eachother out financially we live together he says his house is my house and his family loves me and mine loves him.....he helps me with my daughter from a previous marriage infact he he calls himself as dad and my daughter calls him dad he loves and absolutely adores my daughter and we absolutely love eachother 100% Reasently he's been giving me me hints on wanting to get married ok cool I'd marry him in a heart beat if he asked me....Here are the hints: for instents there's one day we was sitting outside and we was talking ect... About what are future plans are and ware we would like to see eachother in the future all of a sudden out of the blue he says "your def earning my last name" and gives me a big kiss but when i ask him about it he kinda ignores me meening are u saying ur gonna ask me to marry you? I got no awnserThen there's a time he's like one of the guys at work just got married today....I was surprised he went to work he said if it was him I'd want to stay home and spend time with my new wife......then the ladies in the office asked him...so when are you getting married??? He said to the ladies....I give her hints all the time but she seems not not get that I'm throwing hints at her...he's telling me this and then when I get Excited about the idea of the possibility he's says we're not getting married...at least not yet....Then there's another time ware I was looking information up online about a certain subject....he's like that would be nice but what I really want is to get married.....then I ask him about it he says leave me alone about it Recently he said something about buying me a ring okay awsome I gave him an idea of what I like and my size and said ur the one who started it so I'm giving u ideas.... Then the other night we was laying down together and he's says This lady at work waited 30 years to get a ring from her husband....30 year holy crap I said that's along time to be waiting on a ring I said what was it she got he told me it was a princess cut speaking of isn't that what u like is the princess cute and he asked me again what's your size and I told him I'm a size 4 1/2 Then a about a month again we found out his cousin is getting married at the Cincinnati reds stadium right before I went to work ......he's like wouldn't it be cool to get married at the buckeye stadium I said that would be awsome as hell (I'm an ohio state fan) I said we do that we would have to go the whole nine yard with dresses and tux ect... If we do that you might want to get a loan cause this buckeye wedding won't be cheap lmao then we was talking about his buddy is a michigan fan he would be the best man if we were to get married how funny it would be to have him in Scarlett and grey.... Then I turn around I said idk why we're even talking about this it's never gonna happen and I'm completely fine with that... I said u don't wanna marry me anyways... He's like now don't say that cause when u say that it sounds like u don't wanna spend the rest of ur life with me....Then I kinda get ideas and show him the cool stuff we could do and he's like we're not having a wedding like that...He's really confusing me he tells me he wants to get married then turns around and says he don't want to get married Then my mother has gave us idea of going to galinburg ten to get married totally love the idea easy and it could be just us He said no we're not having a wedding like that...we would get married at the court house and have a big get together if we was to get married...again I'm totally fine with that I've already been married before so that's not a big deal...to me The beinging of the year one of my best friends got married I was one of her bridesmaids I wasn't to thrills about having to spend nearly 300 dollars on the dress and we was sitting there with his mom talking about it I said I think it's silly I have to pay that much on a dress I'm gonna ware once his mom agreed with me...he sat there n said why don't you save it for when you.....never mind he said.....his mom finished the sentience what for when she gets married.... I just kinda didn't say anything then he got really quite and when to go hang out with his dad We was in the jeep one day and he turns up the radio and "we ever get married this is the song I want to dance to with you" I for one haven't brought nothing up at all it's been all him....he's bring up the whole marriage and wedding thing I haven't said nothing to him...I do like the idea of getting married to him and having his last name but the questions does it sound like true genuine hints or is he playin head games or dragging me along so to speak... I'm just curious I really can care less I'd be with weather were married or not it's just I want to if he playin head games with me?? Or is he really giving me hints... Once he says those things I just kinda let it go and don't ask any more questions but I still look at ideas ect... Cause of the possibility just wanting your guys opinion thanks
View related questions:
at work, best friend, cheap, cousin, wedding Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2014): I think he is working his way up to it. He may be trying to buy a ring, and saving money. He is running all sorts of ideas in your direction just to check your enthusiasm, and he also wants to know what type of wedding you you might be looking for.
You've been together this long. He isn't playing with your head, he is probably preparing financially for the ring and and everything that comes with it. Usually the bride and her family pays for most of her dream wedding, and the groom and his family has their share to pay as well. Sometimes the bride and groom assume all the financial responsibility; and few women seem to want simple ceremonies these days.
They want a sizable wedding, a pretty gown, a cake, videos, bride's maid's dresses, lots of flowers, a reception, and then a honeymoon. You have to pay for a place to have the ceremony and the reception. This can run into thousands of dollars; unless you have a tidy savings account, or wealthy generous parents. He could be planning to take out a loan.
Be patient. He may be taking on a lot of financial responsibility and he's pulling things together behind the scenes. Meanwhile; he's just making sure he keeps the suggestion of marriage alive in your skull.
Yes he is messing with your head, building to a climax when he does finally ask. From what you describe, he has almost posted a billboard. He doesn't seem very subtle about his intentions. Just taking his time getting there.
A
male
reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (15 August 2014):
 I opt for the head games theory myself, It's like he's toying with you.. It's obvious what you want and he knows it so the refusal tojust ask is a perfectly obvious sign he is messing with you. Motives unknown other than he's getng what he wants now so why mess with a good thing?
...............................
|
