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writes:Is my boyfriend of a year cheating?Me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over a year and I have known him for about a year and a half, when we were first dating he cheated on me. He told me right away and we have gotten over that, but last night I was downstairs eating with some friends from the building and he came downstairs and told me that there was a couple of girls upstairs from his work. He told me that I could go up there but they were just going to be there a few minutes and then going into work. Well me and my friends I was eating with went and knocked on the door when we were done and he flipped out and told them they couldnt come in and I moved to in front of the door and he accused me of setting him up, but what was there to set him up for, he said I could go up there. Well his friends ended up leaving because they didnt know what was going on and didnt want to be around the drama. So we talked and I just think he was trying to tell me so I wouldnt go up there and check on him. I have been in bad relationships in the past and I know how alot of guys are, I was just hoping he was different. He says hes not cheating but I dont know what to believe...I need some advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): It sounds like he is cheating, or trying to. I wouldn't have let him have another chance after he did that the first time (cheated). How can you ever trust him? You really can't.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (27 September 2007):
 What an odd series of events we have here. Let's just suppose he was cheating. Why in the world would he have the nerve to invite her to your place when you're there? Regardless of the fact that you were entertaining friends that night you were still at the house. So that doesn't make sense. Why then would he say you could come up, and then freak out when you did? Maybe you're right and he really didn't think you'd do it, so it was just for "show" that he told you that. Perhaps he was getting a blow job from one or both of them....but again why would he do it in your house, while you're there? Makes no sense to me. So I suppose asking him about it later, didn't yield any good answers? Like, "what was that all about?"....There's no way to know for sure if he was cheating. All you can do is keep an eye on him for awhile and see if he is spending more time than usual with these women from work. Eventually you'll figure it out. We always do. Just don't jump to conclusions until you at least attempt to ask him why he offered to let you come up there, then got upset when you did?....
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