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*emily06x
writes:My boyfriend and i broke up because he didnt want a relationship, as we will be movin away to university next year. it was so hard for me, but we have kept very close.Three Months on. He told me he misses havin me around, still loves me, and still wants us to bo close together and that he dosnt want anyone else. We chat, hang out all the time. He mentioned being 'sex buddies'...but only if we promised that we would not kiss, date, see anyone else! We do kiss and hug alot atm. Should i do it? Or is he just usin me for sex? Or will it make him realise he wants to be in a relationship with me???please help! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): Hun...I am with leanne.od on this one. Do not walk..run away from this. I really think you are worth more than this and you need to spell this out for him too. If stolen minutes of casual sex are all you think you are worth...well you are worth more than this and you need to show him your grit and your self esteem by telling him to shove his sex buddy idea and do something for yourself and walk away from this guy...forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): If you want the same as him, no strings attached sex and nothing else, fine. But if not, don't go down this road as heartache awaits.
Phil
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (27 September 2007):
 Okay, by definition, a "sex buddy" is someone you use for sex, but have no other form of relationship with otherwise. It's just sex. You don't keep tabs on what each other is doing the rest of the time, you don't "date", go to movies, take them home to meet the parents and you don't expect that person to be exclusive to only you. What he has asked for is a relationship with you. Since you two have already broken up because he didn't want a relationship, it sounds like this guy is really mixed up. It sounds like you guys should consider moving back into "relationship" status as long as you both want this, and perhaps consider attending school at the same university. Otherwise, I say cut the tie, including the free sex and focus on school. Good luck.
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (27 September 2007):
 no no no no no no no no no no no no no!!!!!!
he wants no strings attatched sex on tap! he wants you to be available to sartisfy him at his beck and call without worrying about you getting a boyfriend and not being round. he knows you're still in love with him and he is playing you.
walk away with your dignity and self respect. hard as it may be, it'll be better than being used as a mug.
best of luck
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