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writes:I'm currently dating a 21 year old man who is 6 feet and two inches tall, and weight 123 kilograms. Is he obese? If he is, is there any problem in marrying this person? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 June 2015):
 Have you not seen this man in person yet? He sounds overweight, I wouldn't know about obese.
Yes there are problems with marrying overweight or obese people. They are of generally poor health and may need medications that will cost money, they might not be able to work thus bring no income. If you are unable to support yourself, I would advise you to ask specifically about his health condition and his work, if his weight may in some way or other make it difficult for him to work.
There's also the aspect of intimacy. Obese people can have difficulties with sex, not having the appetite for sex, or being infertile, or having problems having sex because their bodies are too large and get in the way. Also, if they are obese or overweight you might not find them attractive. You need to get to know the person first and find out about these things.
Also, obese people got that way because of a life style (or medical condition). If your life style and theirs don't match, then marriage will be more difficult. If you like to work out, if you like to be sporty and do activities, if you like to eat healthy, these things will become a problem in a relationship with a person who is obese because of life style.
All marriages have difficulties and problems, there are always going to be solutions to these problems. But, these are the problems that occur more often with obese people, than with healthy people.
I know I am being blunt here, but these are the sorry facts. It's the same as if you ask what problems might occur if you were to marry a smoker. There would be problems with health and life style as well, in addition to a smoker putting your own health at risk as you would breathe in the same poison. But it's similar with overweight or obese people, if they are so because of life style. You will likely gain weight as well, if you marry them, as you will be eating the same food and living the same life style.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (20 June 2015):
 "Obese," "emaciated," "athletic," "scrawny"..... those are simply descriptions of one's body-build..... They are NOT "reasons" why to marry - or not marry - someone.
Do you like him? ... Do you LOVE him? ... Do you want to spend every minute of your life with him???? THEN MARRY HIM.....
(If not; then don't)
Good luck...
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reader, Garbo +, writes (20 June 2015):
 IDK if your guy is good to marry but based on standard BMI measures he is obese. However, obesity is a relative issue because of the skeletal and muscle frame. For example, many body builders would be considered obese given preponderance of muscle weight relative to their height, yet their percent fat is as close to zero as you can get. So based on your numbers it is inconclusive if he is obese.
Perhaps you can tell by observing g if he has loose fat hanging right under his hands muscles, or if his fat gut is spilling over his pants on the side or if he has hard time walking any small amount of space without having to breathe heavy. Typically, obese people have extremely hard time carrying their weight around without breathing heavy.
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