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writes:After a few years together and quite a while of sexual frustration my boyfriend tells me he just isn't much of a sexual person. Is this a cop out?If this is true why didn't he just say this before instead of saying he ddn't know why or that it was tiredness or not enough time to unwind. Were they excuses or is this latest statement just an upgraded excuse?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (8 May 2008):
Maybe he doesn't know why he finds it harder to get in the mood than you do.
Maybe you keep asking for reasons and him saying he's tired wasn't working so he had to come up with something new - even if he is just tired.
If things used to be a lot better in the bedroom then you could maybe talk to him about making more time for eachother and sex. But if he was always like this then maybe he just doesn't have a big sex drive.
You say you have been with him a few years, is lack of sex worth ending it for? If everything else in the relationship is going well then maybe you need to satisfy yourself or buy a toy.
If you think this is a symptom of the relationship coming to an end then maybe you should sit down and have a serious talk about it all.
Good Luck!! xx
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