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anonymous
writes:Dear cupid,So i have been dating this guy for 4 months. At frist he was really sweet. However, lately he has been very sexual. He always asking me to send him dirty pictures, make a sex video, and do naughty things. Also, for x-mas all he wanted was a lap dance and a strip tease. I was a virgin before I met him. We just recently had sex for the first time. After we had sex, he said that he wanted to walk around my house without his shirt on so my parents knew he "had his way with me." I have talked to my friends and they think he is disrespectful and a prick. I have never been in a relationship so i'm not sure if this is normal 21 year old male behavior or if the guy is a jerk. Should I leave him? Or is this normal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): I don't understand the "just" part of your subject. Is it okay that he is being disrespectful and a prick as compared to something worse? I'd hate to know what could be worse at this point for you, as he has shown that is had zero respect for you. He used you and you let him. You teach people how to treat you, don't let him continue to treat you this way. No human being is that worthless to be treated like a piece of meat. Get away from him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): "he said that he wanted to walk around my house without his shirt on so my parents knew he "had his way with me."
Wow.
All I can say is run, run, run, run.
"send him dirty pictures, make a sex video"
I hope you haven't done this, if you have make sure you have all the documents back, do whatever you need to get them back, and if they are on his PC take his hard drive out before you run and throw it in the river.
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reader, JohnnyXXX +, writes (3 January 2011):
Wow! Really? I know quite a few jerks, but not like that. Sounds like an idiot, and I think you can do better
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 Yep. Disrespectful and a prick is an understatement.
And the part about him wanting to parade shirtless around your house so that your parents would know he had taken your virginity....that gave me chills. I guess it was a joke, but in a very bad taste . He deserves to live out this fantasy with some other girl, one who has a very protective,very old fashioned dad that would chase him around the house with a horsewhip in his hands.
No, this is not normal 21 y.o male behaviour.
I have a 21 y.o. son. He has several friend his age.
They all would look down on such a ...well, I guess "prick " is just the right definition ,like your bf. What are you waiting for before you dump him ?..
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 January 2011):
 Whoa! kick that creep to the curb.
Honestly I think he is being both. Both a prick and disrespectful as all heck.
And no, that is NOT normal behavior. Seems like he is on some ego trip there.
NEVER EVER do thing you don't feel comfortable with, not for a guy. I'm willing to bet that if he was EAGER to parade around in front of your parents to "show" that he popped your cherry, he would gladly post any and all "dirty/sexy" photos on the web or forward them on his phone to friends, just so they would think he's DA MAN.. Disgusting fella really.
Honey, you deserve a guy who treats you with love and respect, instead of one who uses you.
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