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writes:hi am just staying over my boyfriends.we are both 21, been together for a year now. i diacovered he is checking out gay porn and gay sites to meet gay men and have sex.i didn't mean to pry but it was there!i thought we had a pretty spicy sex life, we enjoy plain boring sunday sex, drunked sex, role play and dressing up... i work for ann summers for godsake!!what do i make of that? is it a boy thing or is he gay? i never thought he could be! then again am shocked! i love him we are planning a future together. shall i face him with that or casually ask him?where do i go from here?am actually thinking of suggestung a threesome...i do not want that to affect our relationship..help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007): I totally disaagree with the anonymous male reader. You don't only have yourself to think about, and if he is gay it doesn't mean his isn't thinking about you/loving you. I am gay, and was in a relationship for a long time with a girl. When I was finally able to come to terms with myself, it was the hardest thing that I ever had to do to tell her. When I finally did, she only thought about herself, and basically told me to screw myself. That hurt more than anything I could have imagined.. Just ask him gently, and don't do anything rash to cut him out of your life... Just try to help him, and realize that he can still love you, even if he is gay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2007): No it's not a boy thing. The same thing happened to a friend of mine with her boyfriend. She tried exploring it with him and she ended up hurt in the end. Your boyfriend sounds either confused, or just dishonest and in the closet. In a situation such as this you really need to consider your own feelings and future. My friend's boyfriend eventually came out and dumped her. I think a threesome is a bad idea. If he's checking out gay singles sites it probably means he's willing to cheat on you. I don't think a threesome is going to help matters, I think he'll take advantage of the situation and leave you when he comes to terms, or finds what ever it is he's looking for. Worry about yourself because it doesn't sound like he's too concerned about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): love isnt about sex alone. threesomes are bad in this type of relationship. he may also be bi, in which case you should live happy ever after. please remember thre is nothing wrong with being wither gay or bi. its normal, if he loves you then he wont go and have sex with a man.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (8 October 2007):
Don't think about threesomes. If he is really seeking men to have sex with you need to get out as soon as possible. You need to move into a relationship where you can live happily eve after.
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