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writes: is my boyfriend cheating?i have been with my boyf for 2months have known each other for 7 months and i realli like him but lately im getting very suspicious of him he as always got his mobile on silent and reads messages so i cant see what there about and is always texting and whenever he gets a fone call and we are together he always walks off and when i ask who it was he says his mother! i have asked him but he inssits that he is being faithfull to me and that its nothing jus ennoys him with his mob beeping all the time. when i was last sleeping over his house he asked me to go into his drawer to find a lighter when i opened it there was a letter in a evelope he seen this and quickly said wait actually ill do it and starting lauginh and when i said ys that he jus started kissing me and tempted me into having a cig later on that night he went out and it was jus playing on my mind and i read it it was a letter off his ex saying she loved him and missed him and loads of soppy stuff and thanx for the lovely romantic weekend but i couldnt see a date on the evelope its was to fuzzy. My mate said that i should read his sent and received messages and fone calls next time he asleep and if i find things i dont like confront him cos all i know that letter could be old! but y keep it? im jus relli confused and dont know what to do cos its always playing on my mind and i find it very hard to be physicall with him jus incase he is but feel guilty for thinking it and for reading the letter in the first place!!! help me please
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2006): yeah, it sounds to me like he's being unfaithful. of course, i could be wrong, but unfortunately i do know from experience, that when you have something to hide, you act really nervous and private. i mean, think about it, if your boyfriend was freaking out about you always texting and putting your phone on silent, wouldn't you just show him to prove to him that there's nothing going on, if in fact there really wasn't? when you've got something to hide, you hide it. and when you don't, you don't. that's just the way it works. anyway, if i were you, i wouldn't necessarily go through his phone. rather, i'd just be extremely straight forward with him. tell him that if he doesn't stop acting so suspicious, or just be honest with you, that you're out of the relationship for good. and if it doesn't change, i would just end things. because there's no reason you need to stay in a relationship with someone who makes you feel that way.
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (21 July 2006):
 I agree it sounds fishy. I would be upfront about it. You can't go on thinking this. Do you have insecurity problems or was once in a relationship were someone cheated on you. The things that he is doing are signs of cheating I agree but they could also be nothing. When I cheated on my gf I would do those same things. The truth lies in that cell phone because know matter how careful someone thinks they are they always miss something because they become comfortable. Relax for a week or two and then start your search. Change things up. Let him get comfortable enough to were he does slip and he will if he's doing something. Thats what got me caught. I grew comfortable and in doing so my gf went into my phone and discovered everything to were I just couldn't deny it anymore. I hope this helps. Good Luck.
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reader, Glitterknickaz +, writes (21 July 2006):
 A relationship should be based on trust. Without that you have nothing. Is the issue really that you think he's having an affair or that you don't trust him?His behaviour would certainly seem to be suspicious. You really have to make the decision, do you want to be with a man you don't trust? Do you want to be with a man who you think is cheating on you?Given the brevity of the relationship it might be easier to make your decision now rather than further down the line....
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