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writes: Kind of freaking out here:My b/f is away and doesnt get cell phone reception in his room--he needs to walk about 5-10 minutes away from the hotel to get reception. At the bars where he is at--its a lot of open area so he always gets my text messages and calls. I spoke to him at 2 am and then at 4:30 sent him a text message--the message was not delivered--which from the past week means he is in the hotel room. So i just go to sleep--this morning i wake up and check it was delivered at 6:30 am--that is making me think he was at someone else's hotel and left in the morning--doesnt it sound suspicious? He always got the texts if he was at a bar(they were delivered within a minute)--and i know if he was at his own hotel--he isn't gonna walk 5-10 minutes at that time to get fresh air or whatever the case may be.I dont know what to make of this right now
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reader, ladyluck +, writes (20 May 2006):
for you to question him over a very small matter of text replys and so on leads me to believe that you have high insecurities pls bear in mind that text messages and delivery reports can be delayed by the network provider. More seriously ask youruself what is making you feel so insecure and if the trust you have placed in your boyfriend is false. Trust is the key to a good relationship, everytime your mind niggles with paranoia push it away and think of the special moments you share when he gets back talk calmly and gently about your fears of adultry and explain how much it would hurt do not imply that he has already cheated as you dont know he has. In the mean time enjoy your freedom while hes away and look forward to him coming back. take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis is me who posted the question: i spoke to him today and he said they left at about 3 am and went home. I text messaged him at 4:30 am---it was delivered at 6:30--but when i text messaged him yesterday afternoon, he was at his hotel room so he didnt get it until he actually left the room at night to go out. Unless he had the phone in a different area at 4:30 am and it was able to be delivered but at a later time. He said he got up at 9 am. I dont know if i am being paranoid or not and if this is nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2006): if you get that gut feeling that he is, thats because he is. your gut feeling is always right. If there isnt any explaination for him not getting back to you the way that he always does its because he problaby is doing something that he's not supposet to. Go to www.womansavers.com. go to where it says read and click catch a cheat. They give helpful and very smart advice on how to catch him cheating even if he's far away! read it all very carefully. I had a similar problem and I went to that site, did what advice it gave, and what do you know! I caught my man cheating on me, when i thought it was impossible. I hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2006): You will likely never know what has happened. And you certainly cannot start accusing him, the minute he gets back. That will be a relationship killer right then and there. I know you love this guy but you have a 'huge trust' problem in this relationship. Trust is foundational so if you can't trust him, you have nothing and why are you with this guy? What is going to happen when he gets back? Will you grill him? Will you believe him when he says 'nothing happened'. This whole incident will ride on your mind and it will cretae more insecurities within you. You can't 'control' his every move..you have to trust that he loves you and will be faithful to you. If you can't do this, then please..relieve your inner torment and cut him loose. Start by taking a deep breath and rationalize. You can't do anything about this. Is this worth the stress? Stop calling him and stop doing this to yourself. My suggestion: You will either have to believe him or not. Your choice. When he gets back, I suggest you 'move forward' and drop the subject or you can 'kiss this relationship' goodbye.
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