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writes:hey guys.i've asked for a fair amount of advise on here but this one is not for me.i have a friend who's girlfriend is very deceitful. she has stolen £700 from him, and got him into alot of debt. now normally people would say leave her, which is what i believe he should do but he's not so sure as they have a one year old baby and the mother has told him that if he wants to leave her she is going to move to cyprus as her mother has a business out there and has offered her a job but she will be taking the baby with here.now he loves the baby to bits and is devastated but he doesn't know what to do as he isn't even sure if the baby is actually his as the mother was cheating around the time she got pregnant.any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (17 May 2007):
 Since she cannot be trusted around money, he should shut down any joint credit cards and bank accounts and maintain absolute control over his own finances. If he decides to leave her then he can take legal advice before he goes - citizens advice bureau usually have someone working for them with expertise in family law. He certainly needs to do this as the possibility of a DNA test can be explored to determine paternity and child custody issues can also be discussed. As for her taking the child out of the country, she has automatic rights over the baby as parental responsibility is given to mothers. The situation for fathers is more complicated when the couple are not married. Basically he needs to secure parental responsibility for the child because this gives him legal protection to prevent the child being removed from the country by the mother. It also affords him all sorts of other rights such as changing the child's name or allowing medical treatment. If he is the named father on the birth certificate then he has automatic parental responsibility and can use this through the courts to obtain access to his child post-separation.
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