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writes:I have a problem that I need help with in deducing whether or not I should stay in this or not...me and my boyfriend has been in a relationship for a year now..I'm finding out about small lies he is telling me ..I have been through his phone an found this stuff but everytime I ask him ab out this stuff he denies it when its right there in black and white and there has been profiles I've found He denies that also saying the site put his information up on it that he didn't do it and swears to it like his new job he had he would be late coming home then the next day I see all these directions to places he said he didn't look up ok well how did they get on there? And now he wont let me have access to his phone at all what should I think?? Please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2015): I don't think you have anything concrete that proves he is cheating.A year in and cheating comes up? You are in the early stages of your relationship and should both still be enamoured with each other.Why don't you trust him? I think you should cool down and lay low for awhile. Stop accusing him and stop making mountains out of mole hills. After all you have your boyfriend's word and what you deem as evidence that proves he is guilty, You either need to trust he is being truthful or not. If you don't the trust issue will eventually destroy your relationship. He will begin to distance himself from you and will no longer feel close or loving towards you and he may go so far as leaving. You will also start to distance yourself from him because you are choosing to believe he is cheating and are trying to protect your heart.I suggest rather than making a hasty decision without any proof (it is still possible you are wrong) I would leave the subject alone and just watch him for awhile and pay close attention to any changes in behaviour. Your gut will tell you when something is wrong. But accusing a potential cheater is not a good idea since they will deny it every time.So keep watch and wait for more concrete signs if they come up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2015): The problem is you dont trust him and you are looking in his phone because of that. And you don't trust him because you think he's lying. You need to break up with him because you cannot trust him. End of story.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (14 December 2015):
You are right. You do have a problem you need help with. You are extremely jealous, controlling and paranoid, and conducting daily surveillance on a grown man. You're not his mommy. He's not your child. No wonder he won't let you have access to his phone anymore.
If you think he is cheating then break uup with him. Maybe he is, maybe he isn't. You're going to drive him straight off with this outrageous behavior, though, so get a grip on it.
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