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writes:Hi. I'm terribly having a problem with my NOW-EX-BOYFRIEND.We've been together for more than two years. We were classmates during high school. We were close friends that time. And got developed when we were both in our 1st year in college. Since high school, I already knew how much of a playboy he was yet I still gave it a try when he courted me. We were in a long-distance-relationship for more than two years since he's in the province and I am studying in the city. We actually broke up so many times. The 1st time we broke up, we were just in our 4th month that time. I was the one who broke up with him since I don't want to expect that our relationship will last since it was a long-distance relationship. After a month, he asked for another chance and asked me to give it a try even if it's long distance since he really loves me, as he said. So we gave it a try. When we were in our 1st year of relationship, I found out that he was flirting with a friend of ours. So I decided to break up with him. And then after how many months, we reconciled and became lovers again.In the course of that two years, our relationship status was really INDEFINABLE. VAGUE, especially on our 2nd year. Each time I asked him what and who I was to him, he cannot answer me directly. And it is as if he was not proud to tell the world that I was his girlfriend. I learned that he also flirted with another friend of ours. (WTF!)I grew tired of the set-up--of being a security blanket whenever he needs someone to talk to and to be with. So I finally made a decision to end the agony of being in that "INDEFINABLE RELATIONSHIP."After that, he's still texting me and trying to call me, asking for another chance and telling me that he will never cheat on me again. He keeps asking for my forgiveness and for another chance. And recently, when he called, he told me that he greeted my best of friend an advance happy birthday and jokingly said I LOVE YOU. And he also said that my best friend replied an "I LOVE YOU MORE" message. This really hurt me and told him frankly not to blame me when the time comes that I'll get tired of loving him. I am really hurt and disappointed with my ex-boyfriend who is asking for my forgiveness and for another chance and with my best friend who was very supportive of our relationship. :| My best friend keeps apologizing for what she did.But honestly, after breaking up with my guy, I really felt that I cannot trust him again. ANYMORE. I feel indifferent towards him. Whether he sens me an SMS or not in a day, it doesn't really bother me. But I am wondering why I felt that pang after learning that my best friend replied and "I LOVE YOU MORE" message to my ex's message.I don't trust him anymore. Honestly, what should I do? Could that indifference I feel for him be because I don't love him anymore? Is my best friend probably in love with my ex-boyfriend?I AM SO CONFUSED.:((Help!Thank you.
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reader, kenlin  +, writes (20 September 2010):
 hey i also hard the same problems with my a girl i loved and i always had dreams that some one like her will love endlessly
together how ever just her and me there was nothing that was going to stop me from loving her till i found out she was with my best friend i really hurt me i felt like i was out of this world every one told me to forget her and move on but i could not believe that in was my best friend who took my place i took time with a broken heart i felt like i was alone it took me along time to get over it and i know you can do the same put the past behind u and move on that's what i did
i just want u to be strong even if u feel like every one in against u there is some God has made for u he lives because of u his your light in darkness even if ever one has forgotten u he will pick u among all the other just be strong stay strong coz even if your friend goes on with your x boyfriend it wont work trust me i know boy
after some time that's what happened to my x best friend
they had a fight an now he was left in tears like he left me so STAY STRONG
kenlin victor
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