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writes: Ok my wife is 30 yrs old and still sits on her dads lap and they cuddle and she gives him a kiss. Hell she still calls him daddy!Isn't she too old for this? Shouldn't all of this stop by the time shes like 10. It isn't sexual or anything, I just feel its childish. Am I right or should I just get a grip. Reply to this Question
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reader, rhc88 +, writes (19 July 2006):
 No, she is not too old to be doing this.
You should appreciate that she still got a good relationship with her father as many do not due to growing away from their parents with age.
I think you should just get a grip! (sorry to be blunt)
Hope you get over this soon and get used to it.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (23 June 2006):
 I say that to my little boy as well. I tell him he will still be my 'baby' when he is married (?) with kids. I am his Mum, his Dad is the same!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2006): Hey, I'm 27, and I sit on my grandma's lap and give her big kisses on her cheek all the time - that is when I'm in HK. She loves it, brings her a huge smile. Like my mom always say, "Even if you're a hundred years old son, you will still be my son and the little boy in my life."
The translation from Cantonese to English is off, but close enough.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (22 June 2006):
Good God!
Yes, I would say get a grip!
That is the problem with life today...so many people have *dirty* minds and see bad/evil in completely 'normal' behaviour. I am 35 and I would still sit on my Dad's knee (although I did tend to squash him....HE WAS MY DAD!!) It is called affection.
Just because your family did not do it doe4s not mena is is abnormal.
Does age come into it? When should be the cut off point? I sit and rest my head on my Mum's shoulder and hug and kiss all my family....including my brothers. This is NOT sexual is is tactile and it is what we do as a family, so it is NORMAL to us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2006): I'm not sure she does this because I don't show her enough affection. We have a pretty good relationship. Besides my love isn't a replacement for her fathers love. I mean aren't they different?It just seems wierd. Ariel said that thats what missing in this world love and affection.So ariel are you saying its normal?
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reader, Smiler +, writes (22 June 2006):
 Hi Babe
Well this seems like very strange behaviour i mean i'm the same age as you g/f and i love my dad but would never dream of reacting like that towards him... ur completely correct this sort of affection should have stopped by her teenage years, if i were you i would sit her down and have a heart to heart with her explain that this behaviour at her age seems rather odd to you but tread carefully here try not to hurt her feelings, ask her if there is any other way aroud this or anything she wants to talk to you about maybe she feels she is'nt getting enough affection from you or others hense why she is still seeking affection from her dad.. :o)
I hope my advice was able to help you out with your situation babe and good luck with this... if you ever need a friend or a chat or just more advice don't hesitate to email me sweetie, I would love to hear from you again and know how you got on... Remember i'm always here for you anytime ok
You Take Care Sweetie X
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (22 June 2006):
 I would be a bit concerned too, doesnt sound too normal if shes still sitting on his lap, are you sure that nothing else has occured ? Some people are just very affectionate and there might be nothing in it, she just loves her dad and thats the way they have always been, but it does seem a little creepy, i think i stopped cuddling up with my dad at the age of 11 or so, as i grew up i didnt really want him cuddling me, not that i didnt love him, more that i was growing up and didnt need his cuddles as much... Maybe speak to her and ask her, not sure really, does seem odd and a little alarming, but if shes comfortable with it then i guess its each to their own, maybe shes never pulled away from daddy and he makes her feel safe, but its not something that most girls would still do.
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (22 June 2006):
 I would have thought she was too old for this.
How often does this happen?
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