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anonymous
writes:On Friday night I met up with my ex BF from last year. He has a new GF but we met up and hooked up. I know it was wrong but he persued me. Now he has asked me to keep quiet about it and gone back to his life as though nothing has happened. He sped me a yarn. I don't feel it's right and I want to tell his GF.Is it wrong to snitch on him?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 August 2017):
 Seems you only want to tell her to break them up, he was not the only one in the wrong here, you hooked up with him knowing he had a girlfriend so that just makes the two off you as bad as each other, just learn in future not to involve yourself in someones relationship and leave the girlfriend alone. She has done nothing wrong on you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (25 August 2017):
 I don't see what good would come of telling her.
It's not like you want to tell her because you want her to know what a dick he is, after all, you had no problem SLEEPING with said dick KNOWING he had a GF.
Best you can do about this situation? Is to look at your own actions. YOU allowed this to happen, why? why would sleep wit ha guy you KNOW has a partner? Why do that to yourself AND to another woman?
If you feel like, "CRAP I made a huge blunder here!" then LEARN from it and don't repeat doing that kind of stupid stuff.
Telling her will NOT make you feel better in the long run, and you are not the relationship police nor do you "owe" her the knowledge that he is a dick and you are capable of stupid things.
You both made a choice here, and not a good one. How will telling her... negate that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2017): He is the committed one. Not you. He chose to to ruin his own relationship by having sex with you.
Maybe you were hoping for more. Clearly you are hurt because he is such an asshole.
His girlfriend would be better off without him. And so would you.
Maybe he should be getting blasted from both barrels.
He certainly deserves it.
He made his bed.
And slept in it! With you!
When will men ever learn that you cant just toy with a woman's emotions and expect her to roll over? Go away quietly?
Hell hath no fury...
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reader, Riot2017  +, writes (24 August 2017):
DON'T DO IT PLEASE.
Just avoid falling into his hands again, PLEASE, regardless if he is after you or not.
You don't have the right to OUT OF THE BLUE ruin his current relationship.
If he is a serial cheater, her GF will eventually find out. It's NOT your task to expose him. That's very childish, specially when he explicitly asked you not to tell her GF.
You should find a new BF that cares about you, please. The fact that you want to expose him means that you still have feelings for him. You need to move on, that man is taken now.
Best luck!
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reader, N91 +, writes (24 August 2017):
 You had no problem sleeping with him so who are you to decide to take the moral high ground now and tell his GF?
Yes cheating is bad, but it's not your place to interfere with someone else's relationship. He will more than likely slip up himself for her to find out.
Leave their relationship alone. In future, find someone who is UNATTACHED so you won't feel the need to turn spiteful because you've been used and discarded for sex.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (24 August 2017):
 You'd be causing the girlfriend misery just to get back at him, so yes, it would be VERY wrong for you to snitch to her.
He didn't spin any yarn you couldn't have seen through. You knew exactly what was going on and you crawled into bed with him anyway.
You're no more innocent or moral than he is.
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