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writes:How do I get over a guy that is in a relationship and has probably been for a long time?He's 23 and I'm 18 and we've been friends for over a year. Before I found out that he was in a relationship, I had a crush on him, and it seemed like he had a thing for me too. After finding out I moved on, and entered into something with someone else, which was unintentionally one of his friends. I didn't know they were friends straight away but I really liked the other guy. Things ended after a few months with this guy, I wouldn't say we were in a relationship, just sort of dating. I don't know if feelings for the original guy came back or they never left but I can't stop thinking about him no matter how hard I try and how many times I tell myself he's taken. The way he is with me and the way he's always been is like he's outright flirting with me. The way he talks, the way he looks at me and the way he hugs me. At one point I guess I liked the attention, and maybe I still do. But nothing can ever happen. How do I just tell my heart that?Maybe he's just toying with me just for the sake of some fun? Whatever it is I can't do it anymore before I'm starting to possibly get feelings for him and see him as more than just a friend.
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (7 November 2017):
 This is like a fantasy being played out in your head and you must realise that nothing will and can ever come of this.
This guy's with somebody else for starters, so he's definitely "off limits".
Also, the fact that he has flirted with you and i'm assuming even whilst he's in this current relationship, doesn't score him any bonus points.
He sounds a bit of a ladies man and perhaps even a bit sleazy, so be careful and keep your distance from him.
You don't need to have anything more to do with him, nor do you want to pursue a guy who's already taken.
Do your very best to keep away from him, to not make any contact with him and worry about yourself and your future instead.
Focus on yourself and keep yourself busy, even when you've nothing planned, so that you don't find your mind wandering back to him.
Take control of yourself, your mindset and know that the best you can do for you, for your morale and for your emotions is to end your thoughts and any connection to this guy.
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reader, N91 +, writes (24 August 2017):
 Pretty simple really.
Put as much distance between you and him as possible. Stop speaking to him, why do you need to speak to him? He has no interest in you, he knows you like him and it strokes his ego.
Trust me, I've been where you are. I know what it feels like and you're the only person that can drag yourself out of it.
Remove him from your life, feelings fade over time.
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