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writes:Is it wrong to want to hurt an ex who once hurt you? Or is it really petty? I bumped into an ex of mine after 4 years and he seemed to be really glad to see me...however;i greeted him really matter-of-factly and he seemed to be a little hurt when i had to leave after ten minutes into the conversation.I did not do it deliberately...but i did not feel 'bad'...am i just mean? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): It's wrong to intentionally hurt anyone, but if all you did was cut off the conversation it doesn't sound as if you did anything wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): It just is not worth the trouble. Avoid him and that's all.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (21 August 2010):
 You didn't do anything wrong in this case, you just didn't want to talk. Nothing wrong with that. Now, if you had gone out of your way to hurt him, that would be wrong. People shouldn't cheapen themselves with petty revenge.
Still, I have to repeat that what you describe is not bad. You didn't treat him any differently than you would treat someone else you did not have the time or inclination to talk to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): You owe this man nothing. Why would he appear to be hurt . HE hurt you 4 yrs ago , he should have no expectations. Will you be seeing him again,
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): It is natural to want to hurt some one that hurt you, but two wrongs don`t make a right, and you need to forgive or else you`ll let anger and bitterness into your life, if you have troubele forgiving him then talk to him about it see his side of the story.
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