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writes:Hi me and my I.T teacher havin been seeing each other for two years shes 33 n im 17.But shes married with two kids and she told me last week she was pregnant and it was mine. She said she will leave her husband and kids i dont know what to do. I love her do you think it wrong if we were to have a relationship? Reply to this Question
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reader, FlatCat  +, writes (13 November 2007):
Of course it is wrong! She has abused your trust, and is now bringing life into the world that you will have to pay for emotionally physically and fiancially for the rest of your life. What a silly woman, at her age she should know better. You have done nothing wrong... You have been abused. You may not see it this way, but this is sexual, and emotional abuse. Do yourself a favour and get to your nearest police station and report her. You may not be the only young man she is seeing... I understand you may end up feeling heartbroken, but seriously, their is a big wide world out there for you and you will have all the time you need to explore it. If you really cant take yourself to the police then speak to your school councillor (Therapist) or chaplain... anyone... But get away from this horrible woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): She should be in jail for this. If you were a girl and she was grown man then everyone would be screaming it right now.
Double standard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): i honestly think she should get an abortion and she should stay with her family. she has two kids. and you should move on. you're a bit young. if she leaves her kids that is morally wrong, i don't know... I've not been in your situation, so i really can't say much. if you're against an abortion, then just take care of your baby, but then again i am sure her husband wont be with her if that happens, so maybe you got hope. maybe a divorce with her husband will happen and then you guys can be together, and also she will be able to see her kids; hopefully she wont be on too bad terms with her current husband.
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reader, charli 1603 +, writes (12 November 2007):
 ok, did you know that its actually illegal in the UK for a teacher to sleep with a student?whatever age. you've already said she has a husband and children, so how do you know it is yours.are you sure she's even pregnant?i think you need to think about where it is you want to go in life before u start worrying about families.she is out of order, but i think you are of age to make your own decisions. should anyone important find out, she could lose her job, family and evrytihng. both of you need to think about what is important.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): Love is a beautiful thing and you're lucky when you find it. I don't want to tell you ur feelings are wrong cos they aren't but I don't think this relationship would really be fair on anyone.
Your teacher is being very selfish, not only is she deceiving the family she already has but she is placing an enormous amount of pressure on you, this baby will change your life and maybe for the worst. You are young and because of all the deceit your relationship will be affected and you may end up feeling you've made a terrible mistake you won't be able to take back. Just remember that if you have this child you will be a father and you're priorities won't lie with your lover anymore they will be for the baby. Do you want this yet?
In my opinion you should end this affair and ask your teacher why she needs to have this affair and that she should seek counceling. As for you you're young and deserve to make your own life what you want it to be.
Think about this in the long run don't just be blinded by a love that may be more lusty than long term.
Hope this helps.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (11 November 2007):
 This is such a difficult question. Your young, are you in a position to support a family. You'll be obligated to your child (if the child is yours) but are you ready to have an adult relationship.
If I were you I'd just be a dad to your child if it's yours. There is a chance when her husband finds out, that relationship may be over. Here is something I want you to give real real strong thought too before making a decision. Look at the facts. She's quite a bit older than you, having an affair with you while she has a husband and two children. She's willing to not only leave her husband, but she's also willing to leave her children. I'd be worried about being with a lady who is that quickly willing to leave her children. She's someone who had some problems, and I think at 17 you may not be ready to take on the type of issues she may have.
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