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writes:hey is it wrong to hate your father?my parents divorced when i was about 9 or 10 and it wasn't an overly messy divorce either. i got to see him on weekends and it wasn't too bad. but when he met his wife things all changed, she started telling me and my brothers that my mum was a slut and generally bad mouthing my mum for no reason what so ever. i went to my dad about it and he said he'd sort it, but he never did. things got even worse when he married her. my dad would forget mine and my brothers birthdays or important events that we specifically asked him to go to, that he said he'd go to. but he would do anything for his wifes children. this may seem materialistic, but he bought his step daughter a horse and his 2 step sons a car each, all of which he fully pays for, but he didn't even send me and my brothers a birthday text when i know he's got our numbers.i want to say i love my dad, like daughters are supposed to, but i can't stand the fact that he's replacing me and my brothers, i could even go so far as to say i hate him. i saw him the otherday supporting his step daughter for the carnival and it tore me up inside that he has never done that or anything like it for me.i'm applying for the navy tomorrow and he has always expressed displeasure when i said about joining, even when it was a simple notion, never gave a reason why, he just hated the idea. and i want our relationship to get better but i've no idea how to do it.any advice will be much appreciatedanon x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni'm definately joining the navy because i want to. it's too big a desision to make just to spite my dad.
thankyou for both your advice. he never really thought anything of me, so my way of spiting him will be to actually make something of my life. the daughter he left behind will be the one who has a respectable job. that would be how i get him back.
thanks again for the advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): I am so sorry that you father has treated you this way. Try sitting down and writing him a letter telling how you are feeling, and that you miss your dad.
On the Navy front, please think about what you are doing and if it what you want then that's great, but please don't join, to annoy your dad.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (12 August 2010):
 This really sounds like his problem, not yours. I think that the way that you feel is quite understandable. It is all very sad. However, don't let too much hate in to your life even when you've been mistreated because that hate will hurt you much more than it hurts him.
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