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writes:Im in love with my second cousin and we have dated in the past. We have never felt the same love with any other but he thinks its wrong and i dont think its incest how do i show him it's not incest and i reseached the bible and its not in there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): If he thinks it's wrong, he thinks it's wrong. You can't prove someone's personal beliefs wrong. Just like you can't prove someone's religious beliefs wrong. Regardless of your own opinion, you must respect his. Respect his morals.
Regardless of your and his opinions, dating/marrying your cousin is taboo, rare, and abormal. Even if you're both fine with it, others will be disgusted. Don't live your life being laughed at by others. Sorry but you need to move on.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 June 2012):
 If he thinks it is wrong then that is, unfortunately for you, his opinion of it. His opinion doesn't have to be grounded in facts for him to have it. This is how he feels about it, and no matter what you say or do, he feels this way for his own reasons.
It isn't incest, but if he doesn't feel comfortable about it then that's his final word. Just move on and leave him be. Maybe he'll change his mind once he sees you are moving on.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (5 June 2012):
 Its not wrong per se, but cultural norms are against it this is why your cousin is against it.
Also due to the fact of inherited disease should you both have kids.
Both my grandparents were cousins so it should be possible if you both want that route.
Goodluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2012): Hello, I'm not sure if its illegal incest with a second cousin as it is with a first, and I'm not sure about genetic complications as far as potential offspring goes. But I do think its immoral and a lot of people (more importantly mutual family) will frown upon this. You both haven't felt a love like this for anyone else, that could be because its a family kind of closeness love you are feeling for each other, but perhaps because you're not 1st blood, you don't really look at each other as close family, so you are mistaking it for passionate love.
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (5 June 2012):
 It's not incest. There is very little blood in common, if any, and that is the reason for avoiding incestuous relationships - fear of birth defects due to genetics.
Modern research rules out such defects even for first cousins and we are more liberal with such a relationship here in the UK, but second cousins are no problem whatsoever.
Follow your heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2012): One. The book should never be the way to judge how you live your life, so even if it did say it was wrong, who gives a damn?! But more 2 the point, if you really love them I dont think there's anything wrong with it. However if you are serious, and you plan on getting married someday, you might want to look up the laws of where you live, cause in some places it is illegal. You also might want to be prepared for people like your friends and family to judge you and maybe even hate you, I am not trying to scare you, I am just being honest. Best of luck honey!
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