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writes:My sister's husbands nephew and I had a serious relationship a few months ago. (including sex) later I got to thinking about how wrong it was but everyone says it's ok. the only connection between me and him is that my sister is pregnant by his uncle making them 1st cousins. is it wrong to date him/have sex with him/have kids with him? what would that make our kids to each other?
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reader, genuinesue  +, writes (9 March 2011):
Hi,
I can see that you are worrying about the connection between you and this guy and what others would think. The connection between you is perfectly fine and if you had kids with him then they would not be too close so there wouldn't be any problems there either. There are two things that you need to think about. One is imagine if you had a relationship him but it ended very badly and got messy. You would not be able to walk away from the situation and never see him or his family again due to the connection. Would this make things awkward for you and your family at future events like weddings, christmasses etc.. The other thing to look at is how would you feel if you didn't pursue a relationship with him and you found out he was having a relationship with someone else and when you saw them together your feelings for him were still there. Would you always be thinking what if i had give things a go and regretted this. When anyone has a relationship with someone there are always going to be things that can be a cause for worry. These could be an age difference, race difference, location difference, class difference and so on. There is never going to be a relationship where there isn't something that worries you a bit but that is how relationships are. The main thing you need to focus on is do you enjoy spending time with this man and if you do then see him again. I wouldn't focus too much on the long term aspect of what if you had kids and so on. Just go out with him and enjoy being with him and see where that leads.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 Your kids would be too distant for it to be any kind of problem. Enjoy this relationship and stop worrying there is no problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionand by "them" I mean the baby and the nephew are 1st cousins, not my sister and his uncle.
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