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writes:This is pretty long so im sorry in advance. Me and my ex dated for 2 months and i was her first boyfriend, we're both 18. She dumped me after 2 months saying things like we're not meant to be and i dont feel the same anymore etc etc, but she really wanted to stay friends, cried and begged me to stay at her house so we could "talk." I tried to get her to take me back a few days later by pouring my heart out, was quite pathetic when i look back but i can't take it back, she said it couldn't happen.It's been 5 weeks since we broke up and a few things have happened. I hit the angry/sad stage and deleted her from facebook, instantly regretted it, wanted to add her back but thought i would look silly, i waited 2 weeks and then added her (i thought she had noticed as i saw her throughout the week with friends and she seemd fine) she found the request, realised i had deleted her got really pissed off and said how immature i was to all my friends.Her friend told me she dumped me for being too clingy but she was still upset over the break-up. I saw her the other night with friends, she adds things to what i say, laughs at what i saw, was asking her friend about me but she always looks away when i look at her. I've been pretty much No contact with her for a month, but it was only a 2 month relationship and i want her back, i didn't know i was being too clingy, i don't think i was being too clingy and neither does any of our friends by what they saw, im guessing maybe it was just because it was her first relationship.It's been pretty tense when i've seen her since that facebook incident and im thinking of texting her just saying hey and how are you, then going from there, if she doesn't reply then i'll move on, if she does reply ill see what happens from there. It's just i doubt going out of contact with her will make her come back, it hasn't done anything for me so far and i doubt it will, should i text her tomorrow, when we have a uni break just saying "hey how are you" or wait till monday and text "Congrats on the license, how have you been anyways?" since she is getting her drivers license then and made an effort to make me remember the exact date when we were together.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 You could text her and say congrats if she got her license, but you also need to back off. She has told you she isn't interested. The whole "let's be friends" is a typical girl thing to say when they are trying to "go easy" on a guy they are dumping. They don't really mean LET US BE FRIENDS! but let's be friendly, as is behave with courtesy and decorum when running into each other.
Don't worry about Facebook. Who cares, really?
It wasn't meant to be, accept it and move on.
If you DO text her send her 1 text. Don't spam her. If she replies fairly fast and polite you can text back. If she doesn't let it be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2011): contact her. communicating always plays a major role in relationships, maintaining them as well as fixing them.(trust me, i'm learning it the hard way). But try not texting much, try having a conversation in person or by call, you could learn how much distance she needs, or what's troubling her, and you guys could even get back right in that conversation(if she really wants you back).
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (9 March 2011):
Well, she dumped you after two month because you were too clingy and you are supposed to be immature because you deleted her from your facebook? I guess she's very immature and selfish. When you dump your partner you don't have the right to ask him/her to stay friends or in contact. Because that will pretty much hurt the person who was dumped. And maybe make it easier for the dumper to cope with the whole thing. In other words staying friend with the girl who dumped you is making her easier to dump you, at the cost of your own suffering.
Some people are not meant to be together, that's true. You better move on.
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