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writes:I don't really like to hook up with boys any more but I like to have fun and the attention they give me. At parties, I dance and flirt with guys all the time and they think they will have sex with me but I don't even give them a kiss. Is it wrong to lead on and tease boys like this? Do they hate me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): Yes i do think it is wrongGuys are very different to woman in the ways they think and react to things. You might see it as having fun, but some guys(especially at parties) are looking for action. It gets in our heads that this girl will give me what i want.When we get disappointed a love/hate attitude starts in our heads. We really like this girl(love) and sometimes wont be able to stop thinking about her, but she has been messing me around (hate. So if you feel that living with men thinking that you're "no good" and "a waste of time" etc. isn't a problem, I would definitely say that what you re doing is morally wrong and can cause hate which is a bad thing. A very bad thing.
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reader, helpme246 +, writes (15 January 2009):
I would personally say, don't do it!!! You could get yourself into serious trouble, plus; it strongly confuses guys like me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): if u cut it off early it's fine - if it goes on u could get seriously hurt - both reputationally & physically. why don't u have an internet webcam or print modelling both of these will pay u for teasing.
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reader, OhLawdWhat DoIDo  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 If you don't have any intention of getting with them then please don't bother. It's a really bad quality to have, you don't know how much you could be hurting somebody. It's not just a joke to everyone else.
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reader, chgz +, writes (14 January 2009):
 it is not always good to tease some guys as it can lead to some problems, but if your looking for a bit of fun, and the man can take it, i dont see why not
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): Leading a guy on, depending upon how far you lead them on, is why some girls get raped, especially if you make them think at the end of the evening you'll either be going home with them or they with you with the intention of having sex.
It may be a bit of fun for you, but you could end up being raped or worse. You'll also get quite a name for yourself and no guy will want to get anywhere near you. Word travels very fast.
Do they hate you? Probably not, but it would be interesting to listen to what they have to say to their buddies about you.
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reader, UnfinishedSymphony  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 its completey fine in my eyes...
its better opposed to someone who constantly sleeps with men..
a guy would only see you as hard to get..and thats great.
obviously when your in a relationship teasing can't persist for a long time.
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reader, The Gentle Man +, writes (14 January 2009):
 Theres having a dance and a bit of a flirt. Then theres purposely leading guys on and pushing them as far as you can. If you go over the top you will just be labaled a cock tease and no guys will try it with you. You will have a sign around your neck that warns men away.
Then when you find a guy you like he won't bother with you.
Flirting is fine but if you go too far it can backfire.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (14 January 2009):
teasing can be good, guys seem to like the chase. but they only like to chase if they know they have a chance of getting with you. but then i guess alot of guys tease girls and don't plan on taking them home.
just becareful and remember not everyone will like it.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (14 January 2009):
 Teasing... good... excessively flirting without ever intending to follow through? ...not so good. I suppose that the first thought (warning?) that comes to mind is that old saying: "What comes around, goes around." One day you may find yourself on the other end of this deal and not find it so much fun when you find yourself attracted to some guy, he teases you and then walks away. I'm a big subscriber to karma. Be careful.
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