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writes:Is it wrong that I want my husband to give up porn for his family?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): Hi. I'm biased - I love porn! But only the material where the models genuinely appear to be enjoying themselves (far more sexy than watching any false/unenthusiastic romping). I've watched a great deal of porn since my children were born. Kind of inevitable when the fatigue of early parent-hood is upon us. The fact that my wife is a heavy drinker and has no plans to look after herself (I don't drink and try to keep in good shape) is rather disappointing. Even so, I'd much rather have sex with my wife - much more exciting than porn. Porn is all about fantasy - women with incredible bodies doing incredible sexual acts all with a twinkle in their eye. The children aren't interested in computers - they are running, jumping and climbing trees like all children should be. Let's put it this way, I'd be really upset if my son wanted to join the army for the thrill of guns and shooting. However, if I caught him watching a little porn on the internet I'd have a quiet chat with him and monitor the situation. People forget that babies are made from engorged bodily parts and the introduction of man-juices! Hurrrrah for porn! Most guys only watch 5 minutes on the internet, clean themselves up and then focus on the more cerebral web-sites like Wikepedia. Hope you're willing to have more sex with your husband if he gives up his porn habbit. If not then you might as well get divorced here and now!
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reader, theboythatcriedhotgirlfriend  +, writes (26 August 2009):
 Short answer is yes. He enjoys porn( i can relate, that stuff is great). unless ofcourse hes forcing the family to watch it with him every sunday night or something sick like that let the man be a man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): I don't feel it's any different than asking a man to give up drinking or drugs, so no, it's not unreasonable...
In regards to giving it up for the family, I have this to say....sooner or later, porn in a house, is porn in the kids hands. Plus, he is setting an example which his children will follow. No man has ever hidden porn where his kids didn't find it, computers are no different.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (22 August 2009):
 You cannot make someone give up anything that they enjoy. By conditioning love and acceptance based on behavior, you are forcing him to do something against his will. Eventually he'll resent it, and look at porn behind your back.
The best thing to do with this situation is maybe spend more time with him, and perhaps, maybe even look at it with him. Believe it or not, that may be the best medicine. Sooner or later if you're both looking at porn together, he's going to want to go back to real sex instead of virtual sex.
Otherwise, I do not see how looking at porn changes anyone's emotional commitment to their family. Porn has a place in society, believe it or not.
If you judge less, and perhaps indulge him a bit, you might find that he will pay more attention to you as his wife, and maybe make things nice for you for accepting him this way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): "for his family?"
I don't see how "the family" plays into it. Unless he's showing it to kids or something, you want him to give it up for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): No.But you are a fool to think you can change the intrinsic nature of a human male that much.Instead of trying to literally cut out porn entirely (this is a losing battle, almost all men have watched porn from the first second we found out what sex was) try to get him to be discreet.Why are you even worried about it? Does it affect your sex life, is he skipping family outings to watch it? Or is he watching in his own privacy, and not treating it at all with the seriousness that you are?Men don't see porn as anything other than a means to an end. We get horny so much faster and easier than women, and as its far easier for us to climax, and faster too, we like to jack off. Its a simple fact of life for any man. And porn helps facilitate that because sometimes, our own imaginations are just not vivid enough for our liking.As long as he isn't whipping out his thingy and flipping on the porn in front of the kiddies, and still giving you the time and loving and sex you need to be satisfied, then let it go and try to accept the fact it is part of a man's way of life.Flynn 24
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reader, Goiwan  +, writes (22 August 2009):
 No its not... atleast for a decent wife and kids. He is a sick man with an addiction just like any other :-(
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