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writes:Hey everyone,Here is what is going on. I am really good friends with this girl, we will call her Erin. We have so much fun together and always love being in each other's company and everything. However, she has a 19 year old brother. I am almost 18. Anyways, her brother, we will call him John is back in town for the summer.Me, Erin, John and this other kid were hanging out one night, and John and I hooked up. He got my number and called me the next day and asked me on a date. I went with him and found myself really liking him. I have seen him every day since.Here is the problem: I talked to Erin about it, and she said it is weird, but if we make each other happy, then we should be together. But my other friends are saying that it isn't right because the friendship of Erin and I.Please tell me...is it completely wrong of me to date John, even though Erin said it was okay? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 If Erin said it was OK, then I don't see a problem. Just so long as she's not one of these girls who says one thing and means another, then expects you to know why she's upset.
If you like him and she is fine with it, then who gives a toss about what your other friends think? Don't let the opinions of others get in the way of your own happiness.
Just realize that there /is/ the potential for awkwardness. Erin may feel left out if you start to date her brother, so be sure not to drop her in favour of him. Remember that friends tend to stick around longer that boyfriends.
There's also the break up scenario - if you and John end it, Erin may feel torn between the two of you when deciding where her loyalties lie.
I say good luck to you with your new romance - just make sure you tread carefully.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 This is not Erin's or any of your friends' business. You and John are both free, you're the right age, and you like each other. That's what counts. Don't pay attention to anybody else.
Good luck with John!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): You are entitled to be with whoever you want to be with.
The thing you must realise though, is that would being with this girl's brother ruin your friendship with her?
If she says it's okay, she must obviously trust you enough to know that you would not betray her and as long as you know you wouldn't discard her friendship, then there is no problem.
Relationships come and go, if Erin's brother is a "player" then you must make sure that if he hurts you, you do not blame Erin for it...It will be twice as hard if you cheat / hurt Erin's brother, because he is family and in a close family, it comes first before friendship.
So you need to look at it in a long-term situation. If you believe everything will go fine, then there is nothing wrong with it, if he is "the one" it could bring you and Erin closer in many ways, but as I said, it could also tear you apart alot more if something goes wrong. Would you be prepared for that?
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