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writes:I like this really pretty girl. She is really beautiful, no joke. I used to be on the heavy side, but after meeting her and becoming her friend, I have been motivated to lose weight and get in the perfect shape. I wanted to do the because I wanted to look good when I finally got the nerve to ask her out. Currently I have lost a lot of weight and am almost close to my goal of 180 lbs. My problem is that after getting to know her more, she is kind of a bitch. Now that perfect princess of mine has fallen from her pedestal I have placed her on. She seems so conceited and snobby and has even given me the cold shoulder once. I question myself whether or not I like her. I feel like I have a slim chance of actually being with her, but I have confidence issues. She probably was mean to me because she probably found out that I like her, and didn't know how to respond to that. When is my best shot at taking the plunge and asking her out? How do I overcome my shyness and gain confidence. Please help, I need to boost my levels and need a strong advice.
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reader, Mushgirl  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 I hate it when that happens - you find someone who seems perfect at first, but the more you get to know them, the more you realise you don't like them. It's so disappointing, isn't it!
Everyone falls for someone who's hot now and then, it's only human - but do you really want to be with her? She sounds like one of those people who can be nice - but when it gets to the crunch, impressing everyone else is their priority. Seriously - not fun. Don't degrade yourself like that.
You could try asking her out, but don't appear too keen. If she's that beautiful, she probably gets male attention a lot. You don't want to be another one of those guys that girls can say "Oh he's crazy about me. But I turned him down." Sad but true, bitchy girls and guys have a habit of doing anything to boost their social status.
Play it cool, and if she says no, carry on being friendly but don't give her the satisfaction of being chased.
Good luck - and I hope you find someone who you actually like to fancy for your own sake! xxx
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