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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): No its not strang if you two didnt bond as fsther and daughter.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 I would say a little odd but not illegal. Also, I can see where you are falling in love with her because she's a part of your deceased wife.
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reader, DenimandLace44 +, writes (11 October 2010):
 Her mother is deceased? If so and there has been a appropriate time lapse, then there is nothing at all wrong with it. I think there will be people who do not approve, but its really just a personal opinion of theirs. Just be prepared.
I know a couple...the woman was married to an older man. She was around 60 and the man around 80. He died and a year or two later she ended up marrying his son. It was the talk of the town, and lots of jokes were made at first, but in truth everyone wished them well. Its been almost 2 years since they married and they seem to be very happy.
Goodluck and best wishes
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reader, DenimandLace44 +, writes (11 October 2010):
Her mother is deceased? If so and there has been a appropriate time lapse, then there is nothing at all wrong with it. I think there will be people who do not approve, but its really just a personal opinion of theirs. Just be prepared.
I know a couple...the woman was married to an older man. She was around 60 and the man around 80. He died and a year or two later she ended up marrying his son. It was the talk of the town, and lots of jokes were made at first, but in truth everyone wished them well. Its been almost 2 years since they married and they seem to be very happy.
Goodluck and best wishes
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 Considering your wife has passed away - there is nothing stopping you from persuing this relationship.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 If your wife has passed away I don't see a problem with you and her daughter getting together.
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reader, stepdad +, writes (11 October 2010):
stepdad is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe are still married but she past away and yes my stepdaughter says she loves me the same way that I love her is that wrong
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (11 October 2010):
I'll bet mum would say YES!
But your question lacks all the little details like are you still married to her mother, does her mother still consider herself your wife, what motivated the daughter to even "go there" have you and your step daughter declared your love for each other or have you just decided to fall in love without her knowing ..... you know the kind of stuff, all the little details that we could base a rationable answer on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): I see nothing wrong with it. If you're not married to her mother anymore, you're not even stepfather or stepdaughter. If you still are, that's an affair. But if you're not, then go for it! I really don't see any problem with it. You're both similar and age and full adults, it's not like she's 15 and you're 48.
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reader, Honeygirl +, writes (11 October 2010):
Can you give us some more information - are you still married to your step-daughters mother?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): how old is the mother or is the daughter 24 or 14?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 I don't know about any legal reasons why that would be a problem unless her mother and you are still married or what the situation is with that. If you are still married with her mother then she would be considered your daughter (I think) and therefore it would be illegal. If you two are not together then although people would see it as being wrong but legally you should be ok. Maybe someone will clarify the legalities on this but I do beleive that we are not in control of who we fall in love with and it's not like age is a factor at all with the relationship.
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