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writes:Usually when I read questions about porn the answers state that the men are usually more interested in the acts than the women and 'he wouldnt really want to have sex with them'.However my husband openly admits he wanted to have sex with the porn stars. This hurts me incredibly. Is it worth staying in a marriage when my husband feels this way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): Im sure if a real live porn star approached him, he would run a mile. Still its not nice to have a partner telling you how much they would like to have sex with someone else. I agree with Not My Name. Tell him you would like to do the same with some big hunky man. He probably wont like it but it will get your point across. My partner has a huge `thing` for an actress in a leather outfit in some vampire film. She really sends him goofy! I know he has a fantasy about her chasing him in her leather but it will never happen, so i dont worry about it. Unless you think there is a chance your partner could end up bedding porn stars, please dont worry about it x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): your being over sensitive I think? me and my hb watch porn and I always say which one would you like to FXXK? he says and we get all hot and sweaty thinking about it, once we are finished its not spoken about again cause its pure fantasy, and thats prob the same for your guy?
Women have got to realize that men are more visual than us girls and I would think 90% of men who watch porn would want to sleep with the actress......If I was you I would say to him something like, no they only hire good looking men with big dicks, you dont satnd a chance!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): You should certainly voice your opinion to him and ask that he not hurt your feelings when he makes the statements that he does. The harm in it, I wouldn't say should be too bad. I mean, it's just like most guys fantasies are to be with someone whom they can't or someone they admire such as Jennifer Lopez or even Megan Fox. I'm sure that everyone in life has someone famous that they admire and just because it's someone in a porn shouldn't make it any different.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (20 January 2010):
I think that if he says this to deliberately hurt you then you need to tell him to go to hell. But if its just an honest fantasy, maybe you could play around with it, secretly spend a couple of weeks in a pole dancing class then surprise him with a show and all. You can use a different name and everything and really have fun with this. Maybe book a hotel for the night and be ready for him when he gets there. Wear something sexy (maybe a body stocking and 6 inch heels:-) and no giggling to spoil the mood. Don't always see everything as an affront, unless he is being deliberately hurtful. Maybe you can tell him one of yours to act out. There are no porno women who are going to do this with him unless he is paying by the hour, so you can make this come true for him... to some extent!! It can be a huge orgasmic shock especially if you practice your whole act you can make him worship you for a long long time after this and maybe get that trip to the Carribean that you have been asking for for years. Speaking from experience.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (20 January 2010):
 Hell if Johnny Depp rang my doorbell I'd.... But really if "wishes were hores then beggers would ride". Your husband is a dork for telling you this and I wonder why he did, but your reaction is just a tad over the top. Tell him that if Johnny Depp rang your doorbell YOU'D.... and see what he says.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 January 2010):
Of course it is. He's been insensitive about it. But the fact is men look at porn and porn stars for a reason. It's the same as if you have a thing for any actor or something. He has his fantasy. But he loves you. I would suggest you talk to him and as for reassurance about it.
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reader, Not My Name +, writes (20 January 2010):
 Yeah he might wanna, but I think he is dreaming ..lol. It is nothing more than a fantasy, no diff to someone saying they wanna shag a cop, or a movie star, or whatever. It really has no substance, so I would not worry about it. ...or you could just tell him you wanna shag a porn sttar too, ...kinda put it like, ya know, one of the men hung like donkey with super staying power, ..that might get a reaction and shut him up ..lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): Your husband has told you what his fantasy is... sleeping with porn stars, which in all reality, will never happen.It does sound like you are very insecure and I do think that since you are considering divorce over this issue, that there is obviously something else going on in your relationship that you have not disclosed.Why dont you play at being a 'porn' star for your hubby? Maybe all he needs is a spiced up sex life? I have this fantasy about being with 2 men - which I have told my bf about - he is okay with it, as he knows that I will never ever do anything like that... it is a fantasy and it will stay a fantasy!Your hubby felt secure enough to tell you what his fantasy was, so use it to your advantage.....
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