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writes:I'm a little bit confused. I met a girl a few months back whom I care for a lot! I'm never happier than when I'm around her. The mere thought of her makes my heart rate triple. The problem is she is very popular and has a lot of friends. At first she would make an effort to get in touch and hang out but now she isn't in touch at all unless I make the effort. She has completely lost interest, which is mortifying.My question is, is it worth keeping in touch with her? On the one hand I can't bare to be without her company but at the same time it's difficult when I know she doesn't like me in the same way I like her. Add the fact one of my best friends seems to be making a move I can see nothing but misery and heartache my end if I keep in touch. On the other hand if I lose contact with her then even the most microscopic chance I have of getting her to like me become immediately extinguished. A thought that is hard to bare. However it does help me to stop think about her if I'm not around her so much and I would take any relationship she starts a little easier if I wasn't so aware of the details.Either way it seems I lose, but I need to make a choice. In terms of pain, which is the easiest road out of here?Thank you for any advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, this helped tremendously!
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (3 September 2008):
 I think the easies, according to pain, would be if you take time off without her to get over her.
I agree with the anonymous poster and the sayings she put.
You're still hanging around this girl hoping if you can get back together when you could be out there actually finding real happiness for yourself. Realize that you two were never meant to be and that out there, if you move on, that you will find that special person who will make your days be sunny every day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2008): There is an old saying that I personally had to revisit lately:"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it is yours. If it wasn't, it never was."I also like the saying: "There are lots of fishes in the sea".Move on, don't look back. You'll be fine.
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